Dennis Walker – FamilyToday https://www.familytoday.com Here today, better tomorrow. Thu, 04 Feb 2016 15:21:25 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.8.3 https://wp-media.familytoday.com/2020/03/favicon.ico Dennis Walker – FamilyToday https://www.familytoday.com 32 32 10 ingenious ways to ensure a 2nd date https://www.familytoday.com/relationships/10-ingenious-ways-to-ensure-a-2nd-date/ Thu, 04 Feb 2016 15:21:25 +0000 http://www.famifi.com/oc/10-ingenious-ways-to-ensure-a-2nd-date/ Wondering how to spend more time with that fantastic person you went out with last night? Here are 10 simple…

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A simple Google search of "How do I get a second date?" brings up countless dating sites and advice. Clearly, this is not an uncommon question. The advice is as varied as it could be, but you can notice common themes in these advice columns.

Below are ones I personally found worked well. Now, as a married man, I can look back on all the first dates I had, both good and bad, and realize what went well and what I could have done better. You can't control what the other person does, but make sure you're doing your best to make the other person feel like the date was worth their time.

1. Be your best self

Guys, open her door. Ladies, say thank you when he goes out of his way to make you feel special. We're culturally expected to be on our best behavior on the first date, so make sure that this really is the case.

If you've got spotty things in your past, remember this person has probably Googled you. Have an explanation ready, but don't obsess or worry too much.

Also, some things are always a no-no: don't get drunk, don't share your conspiracy theory on aliens taking over the world and so forth. A good rule of thumb is to ask yourself, "Am I seeming over-the-top in any way?" If you answer yes at all, cool it and change the subject.

2. Be real

Nothing will make the other person comfortable more quickly than seeing you're being yourself. While you should still be at your best, being relaxed and easy-going will help your date also feel at ease.

Speaking your mind is definitely okay, especially if the person is willing to push back a little bit in the conversation. Strong dialogue is a good indicator you balance each other out.

3. Stay off your phone

No one likes wondering if their date is texting the person they met last night from Tinder. Do yourself a favor and stay off your phone unless it's an emergency, and this includes checking your smart watch. Being 100% present will tell your date they're a worthwhile person and you are enjoying spending time with them.

4. Ask questions, but don't interrogate

When I was working on my undergrad, I once had a really fun date to the circus with a great girl. She had run for student body president the year before and was pretty, funny, smart and independent. However, on the drive home, she began firing questions at me like a police officer trying to get a confession out of her suspect. It made me uncomfortable, and I was leery about going out with her again.

Do ask questions about who your date is. Ask about their family, what growing up was like and what they do in their career. These types of questions may seem mundane, but this is basic information that is vital to moving forward in any relationship.

5. Keep the first date simple, but have a plan

This will help you avoid the awkward "So ... what do you want to do?" conversation. Something like ice cream or a free concert could be a ton of fun without dominating an entire evening. And there's nothing wrong with calling it a night after an hour or two.

6. Don't let your eyes wander

Seriously. Going back to being 100% present in the moment, this helps your date feel important. Don't flirt with the waitress, don't mention how the person on the corner is hot and certainly don't be caught checking out the guy who just walked by.

7. Don't show off, but don't be cheap, either

This is a fine balance to achieve. Going to that pricey steakhouse downtown probably isn't a way to make the lady feel comfortable, but don't take her to a burger joint, either. This falls back to number 5: have a plan, and make sure she's going to be comfortable with it.

8. Give a kiss on the cheek

Only do this if you want a second date. This lets the other person know you're definitely interested, but that you're not expecting anything. If they want to kiss you back, great; but if they don't reciprocate, say goodnight and call it good.

9. Ask what she'd like to do on the next date

Or, even just ask what some of her favorite activities are. This gives a segway into tying down a place and time for the next time you can see this person.

10. GUYS: Call her back, quickly

One of the biggest errors I've heard from single guys is "Wait at least a week." This is absolutely a terrible idea. Send a text that evening saying you had fun, then dial her number within 24-48 hours and ask her out again if haven't already. This will let her know you're interested and willing to do what it takes to spend time with her.

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5 things sales jobs taught me about relationships https://www.familytoday.com/relationships/5-things-sales-jobs-taught-me-about-relationships/ Wed, 20 Jan 2016 06:30:00 +0000 http://www.famifi.com/oc/5-things-sales-jobs-taught-me-about-relationships/ My time working as a sales professional has taught me invaluable life and relationship lessons. Here are a few.

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When I was first approached to enter financial services as a sales professional at the ripe age of 23, I learned five absolutely invaluable concepts that have helped me across all aspects of life — especially in relationships.

These experiences have greatly helped my wife and me have a "we can win" mindset as a couple; it actually helped me find her in the first place and eventually win her over.

1. Qualify everyone

Not everyone is a good fit. This is first on the list for a reason. Sure, someone can be exceptionally attractive, and you can be smitten by them, but if their personality doesn't mesh with yours or you don't share many, or even some of, the same values, chances are you're setting the relationship up for failure.

2. Be persistent

I don't mean keep going after the person who clearly isn't interested in you; this is harmful to your mental and emotional health. I do mean keep getting out there, keep meeting new people, keep asking people on dates.

If you really are interested in someone but you're not sure about their feelings about you, keep inviting them to join you. Eventually, they'll see who you really are; and this may open opportunity to develop further relationships.

For those in committed relationships, especially marriage, this can be translated into "Be consistent." Frequently do kind things; be a team player all the time, not just sometimes; tell your partner how much you love them and why, and do it daily.

For both stages of life, be the same person all the time, wherever you are, and you'll find it attracts other genuine people, ensuring stability and success throughout the life of the relationship.

3. Play to win

Go after what's attractive to you and don't let up until it's yours.

In my sales career, that's been the goal of a $100,000 annual income. I haven't reached that goal yet, but it's consistently at the front of my mind as I work throughout the day. Sure, it's been really hard work building my career, and sometimes I end up in places I don't want to be, but calculated risks usually end up either working out well, or teaching me something valuable; or (ideally) both.

With romance, if you're playing to not lose, you'll end up in a mediocre relationship that might make you happy, sometimes. Conversely, when I told my mom I wanted to marry a gorgeous woman with a strong personality, she said, "Then you need to be ready to fight for it." She couldn't have given me better advice. I fought for my wife throughout our courtship, and I continue to do that every day. She fights for me, too, and we make quite the winning team.

4. No doesn't always mean no, but a firm no always means no

When someone says they're not interested, do your best to find out why — if they're willing to share with you. This can be valuable insight to help you improve yourself. When prospects tell me "no" or current clients cancel services, I do my best to figure out why it didn't work out. Then I take it to my next sale and work to improve the relationships.

Remember, though, that just because you make changes doesn't mean the person will be interested. If this is the case, just do your best to move on.

While a dating or relationship "no" is more emotionally painful than the sales version of "no" — because it's a rejection of you and not your product, company or service — the end action should be the same: Go find and create other opportunities, or you'll burn out and begin to feel like you're wasting your time.

5. Relationships can sour ..

... if you don't consistently care for them. Going along with "be consistent," continue courting each other throughout the relationship.

Go out regularly. It doesn't always have to cost money; do things together, like rock climbing or taking dance lessons, or even cooking dinner together. Text messages throughout the work day will help you both to know that the other cares about what's going on in your day-to-day routines.

Bonus for single people

Prospect everywhere, but develop specific places and sources that work well for you, and use them regularly.

When I was single, I had specific places I went regularly to find people who shared my values and interests, including religion classes with my church, Latin dance social clubs, business networking meetings and more. I also created an online dating profile, which is how I ultimately met my wife. I did this because it was a consistent place to always be filling my "pipeline" with new people, and I met a lot of great girls that I would have otherwise never connected with, including my wife.

This article was originally published on Dennis Walker's blog. It has been republished here with permission.

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3 financial mistakes young people are making https://www.familytoday.com/family/3-financial-mistakes-young-people-are-making/ Wed, 30 Dec 2015 11:05:04 +0000 http://www.famifi.com/oc/3-financial-mistakes-young-people-are-making/ Avoiding these three mistakes while you're young can help you prepare for the not-so-distant future.

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While this topic isn't always considered glamorous, and with many millennials ignoring the facts about finances and winging it, if you want to be truly financially at peace, the following are three tips I've seen work in my own life and can work in yours:

1. Not having enough life insurance/disability income insurance

Everyone will die at some point, and we all know that when that happens it is entirely unpredictable. Moreover, not planning for this is irresponsible, even if you don't have children or a spouse. There are things like funeral expenses, debts, medical bills and more that will all need to be settled at your death.

Saying, "I'll get life insurance later" is a sure way to make sure that by the time you do apply, it will be more expensive than if you buy it now while you're young. There's even a serious risk that you may not be able to obtain enough coverage or even no coverage at all. Your health status can change overnight, and there are many conditions that make you uninsurable.

An equally serious topic is long-term (3 months or more) disability insurance. There are multiple studies that show anywhere from 20% to 33% of adults in their 20s will experience a disability lasting anywhere from two to five years that will keep them from working full time and restrict them from being able to engage in at least two activities of daily living by themselves.

Both these types of insurances are easily obtained by meeting with a financial advisor. I recommend meeting with an advisor that is either a broker or who works for a mutual insurance company with a large book of business and many happy clients.

People who sell these products have the proper licenses and training to help you make sound decisions about what types of financial products to buy, and will generally help you make a better decision about how much insurance you need than if you simply did an internet search by yourself.

There's a lot of garbage information out there from financial entertainers (who are usually unlicensed, inexperienced or both) and others who have even fewer credentials. Most of these people only have a background in real estate (I'm not knocking that, it's just not financial planning.) and hate the fact that people who work in the financial services make money from commissions or fees, and let their bias cloud their advice, which is hypocritical, given real estate agents and brokers make their money the same way.

2. Not starting retirement planning now

While you may think that there is plenty of time to begin saving for retirement, the fact is that the sooner you begin, the longer you'll have to build a strong portfolio. This should be the central focus of your finances in your twenties, but it shouldn't be a secondary thought, either.

You might say, "Hey, I've got a 401(k) at work. I'm contributing." However, it's likely not more than 6% of your gross income, and it's also probably a pre-tax donation (meaning you'll have to pay taxes on it in retirement). Your employer probably doesn't match more than 3% either. That puts you at 9% pre-tax money (granted, 3% is definitely free money for you). Most financial advisors recommend putting at least 10% of your income toward retirement, and more if you're single. (My financial advisor has me and my wife working toward a goal of 20% monthly).

3. Not saving/living paycheck to paycheck

This is perhaps the largest, yet most egregious error, we can make with our finances. At least 10% should be going straight into your savings account and not be touched except in the event of job loss or an emergency.

Recently, the Washington Post published an article that nearly half of Americans can't afford a $400 unexpected experienced. I suspect this is largely because of the consumer-minded culture that has developed in our country (and the west in general) of keeping up with the Joneses. It causes us to incur stifling debt, and regularly spending more than we bring into our bank accounts.

This kind of cognitive dissonance is disturbing and financially dangerous, especially in the long-term, bigger picture, but can be overcome on a household basis.

The two best things to overcome this financial illness are to 1) have an automatic savings plan and 2) create multiple streams of income. Doing this will help you overcome financial bumps (as they will happen), giving you a reserve, helping you have a backup plan, preventing you from incurring more debt, and ultimately making you the master of your finances.

Bonus Tip

Track all of your expenses. If you are already doing the things above (and even if you're not), you may wonder where the rest of your money is going. Even more important than budgeting is tracking every penny that goes out of your bank account, your PayPal, your wallet, change jar, or any other form of spending that you have. Knowing what you spend and where you're spending itwill bring you peace of mind and ultimately stop you from continuing to make poor spending decisions.

This article was originally published here. It has been republished with permission.

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5 financial things every young married couple needs to do right now https://www.familytoday.com/relationships/5-financial-things-every-young-married-couple-needs-to-do-right-now/ Fri, 16 Oct 2015 06:30:00 +0000 http://www.famifi.com/oc/5-financial-things-every-young-married-couple-needs-to-do-right-now/ These tips will help every young couple get their financial lives on the road to short- and long-term stability, even…

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As a young, single man, I often found it difficult to get my finances in order. However, when I started these habits and practices, things suddenly got easier. I knew where my money was coming from, what bills were due and when, and exactly how much I had. I even had extra. As I regularly made these habits a part of my daily, weekly and monthly routines, I found great mental and emotional peace.

Following are five habits I see for a stable, secure financial picture. As my new wife and I have engaged in and communicated about these five things, we've found it has strengthened our marriage.

1. Track your expenses and budget your bills

I can't stress how important this is. As you spend money, write it down. I sit down at the end of every day and enter all mine and my wife's expenses. I then check to see what bills are due that day on our shared calendar, and check them off.

I've created my own system for doing this using a Google Drive (particularly Google Sheets and Google Calendar) and I've shared it with my wife so she has access to it any time she wants to see where we stand.

If you don't have this kind of time, I recommend using a money management app, such as Mint.

2. Save a minimum of 10 percent from each paycheck

No matter how much debt you do or don't have, saving is essential for a rainy day. Earlier this year, the Washington Post published an article noting that Allgov found that almost half of America can't handle a $400 unexpected expense. This is largely due to the mindset that personal debt must be paid first.

My experience, however, is that you should save first;_ and this should be done without exception. You'll quickly notice how fast your savings account grows.

More importantly, you need to start investing — right now. Many young people think they don't have the money to do this, or that if they need the money it would be unattainable. Neither of these things is true. There are plenty of avenues to start growing your money right now that are not too risky, and work well for young people who don't have a lot to start with.

Investing is also important because it helps you overcome inflation. If you keep your money in a simple savings account, you'll be lucky to get 0.03 percent return. Many investments yeild a much higher return, some as much as 11-12 percent.

3. Obtain the proper insurances and put a will in place

Whether or not you have children, both life insurance and long-term disability insurance are necessary to protect your income and earning power.

Consider these two facts: 1) Everyone will die, and we don't know when. 2) One in four 20-year-olds will become disabled at some point in their working lives, limiting or perhaps eliminating their ability to earn income for themselves and their families.

Having income in the event of a death or disability will greatly reduce stress on your family, and can prevent uncomfortable circumstances, such as your possesions and money going into probate. A will and living will can portray how your money will be used in the event of one of these circumstances.

Life insurance can ensure all your debts are canceled and that your family has income to provide for funeral expenses and their living expenses for anywhere from 10 to 30 years. Disability will provide you the ability to meet your obligations as you live but can no longer work.

4. Meet with a financial advisor

If you're like most of us, concepts like these can be confusing and give you a headache. A trained, licensed financial advisor can help you more easily understand what steps you need to take to become financially awesome.

I seriously recommend staying away from financial "entertainers," or popular finance TV/Radio personalities who give advice. These people tend to tell everyone to use the same strategy and products.

Every situation is different, and an adviser who specializes in your position of life is the best option. They also have the proper licenses to sell you the insurances and investment tools that will best help you get to a stable, strong position.

If you're not sure where to start, interview several advisors, or ask people you trust for recommendations.

5. Create multiple income streams.

Things like AirBNB, starting a side business, freelance writing, or even picking up a second job are great ways to supplement your income. There is opportunity everywhere you look to make a little extra cash.

As you save a little more, consider buying real estate with the intent of renting the properties. This will create regular, reliable income that will be easy to count on as part of your monthly flow. Hire a property manager, and pay them from the budget of this stream; it will eliminate the need for you to be the one constantly maintaining the property.

My wife and I currently have four streams of income between the two of us (We have personally decided to stay away from multi-level marketing, because of the time that's required in the beginning to make it work, and we have both had awful experiences in such encounters).

While this may seem daunting right now, I can promise this has worked in my life and has strengthened my marriage. Try following these steps to create a happy, stable marriage based on honest financial habits that will enable you and your spouse to be your very best selves in this very essential part of married life.

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5 signs he’s not mature enough for a relationship https://www.familytoday.com/relationships/5-signs-hes-not-mature-enough-for-a-relationship/ Fri, 09 Oct 2015 14:38:49 +0000 http://www.famifi.com/oc/5-signs-hes-not-mature-enough-for-a-relationship/ Seeking out a mature man isn't always easy; but they're out there waiting and searching for the right woman to…

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Knowing the signs that you're dating someone who has yet to grow up - or worse, someone who refuses to grow up - is key in finding happiness in dating.

Here are some signs he's not mature enough for a relationship:

1. He takes little or no responsibility for his actions

A guy who can't own up to his actions is definitely not mature. In the real world, we are all responsible for what we do and say, as well as what we don't do or fail to do.

2. He only works a summer job

No, I don't mean that he's in school and works a high-paying job and saves during the summer to support himself (that's a really good thing, actually). The type of guy I'm referring to works for only a few months a year and spends all that he earns the other nine. He finds himself broke every year, has no savings, and then goes and works odd jobs or a summer job to continue feeding his bad habits.

Even worse, he may not be able to hold a job at all. This could be for many reasons, but see item number one on this list.

3. He has no direction

He's likely dropped out of school and has held the same position at work for a long time. He gets up, goes to work, comes home, eats, sleeps, repeats. Maybe on the weekends he hits up a party or two, or he sits around playing video games with all of his spare time. Maybe he travels a lot without ever really ending up anywhere. Be careful of this man; if you are with him long-term, he will drag you down with him.

4. He can't make decisions

If there's anything more indicative of a man who doesn't want responsibility, it's this guy. He's wishy-washy; he changes his mind often. He has missed lots of opportunities.

These types of guys are known to call off engagements and get cold feet on their wedding day. Even worse, they could leave after you marry them. Not being able to make important decisions is a serious lack of maturity.

5. Everything is a competition to him

This is perhaps one the most unnecessary things a woman can consistently endure. If your man has to always be better than you, is always trying to be No. 1, and never congratulates or appreciates your successes, watch out.

Competition's companion is put-downs. If your man can't compliment you, tell you that you're beautiful and that he thinks you're wonderful, then he isn't the right kind of person; at least not yet.

Sometimes it can be hard to figure out if your guy is actually an adult. He may be good at covering up his immaturity for a time, but it will come out eventually.

If you find yourself in a relationship with an immature guy, it's not the end of the world. Carefully assess the situation, talk to a close friend, a mentor or even a professional about the situation. If you're not sure what an emotionally mature man looks like, ask your friends who seem happy and secure in their relationships what they like most about their boyfriend or husband.

A mature man will exhibit adult characteristics on a consistent, day-to-day basis. Seeking out and finding these men isn't always easy, but they're out there, waiting for a strong, mature, independent woman to come along and help them feel complete.

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5 ways to get over someone who is not interested in you https://www.familytoday.com/relationships/5-ways-to-get-over-someone-who-is-not-interested-in-you/ Tue, 21 Jul 2015 06:30:01 +0000 http://www.famifi.com/oc/5-ways-to-get-over-someone-who-is-not-interested-in-you/ As you engage in improving yourself and shifting your focus, it will be easier to get over someone who doesn't…

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We've all been there: There's that one person we just adore; that person we would do almost anything to be in a relationship with. When he walks into the room, your stomach gets butterflies. You feel like you're walking on air when she says your name. And yet, this person don't share your feelings. Perhaps this person has simply failed to return the affection you have for him or her, or has even told you he or she is not interested.

This is a normal part of life. If you have let the person know you're interested (clearly, with words, be it written or verbal) and he or she has told you in return that those feelings are not mutual, it's time to move on and respect his or her free agency to choose a mate.

Before I get into tips on how to get over your crush, I'll say this: Attempting to persuade someone to be with you, after they have told you no, is simply unacceptable. Part of developing healthy relationships (including no relationship at all) includes setting healthy boundaries.

Not letting go is very unhealthy, and can actually develop into serious psychological issues, including obsessive love, depression and anxiety, being in love with love or love addiction, romantic attachment disorders and even stalking. (If you're struggling with this, I recommend reading Obcessive Love: When It Hurts Too Much to Let Go, By Dr Susan Forward and Craig Buck)._

Following are ways we can detach ourselves from a previous love interest, relationship or even friendship. While it's OK, and entirely normal, to grieve for a bit, it's important to recognize the pain is temporary and can be overcome within a short time, if you put a strong effort into it.

1. Get out of the house

Go out to dinner with your friends. Get to work early and stay late, seeking to excel in your job, studies or profession. Take a cooking course or a social dance class, or enroll in a professional development program. Focus on getting out, staying busy and making yourself tired by the end of the day.

Dating may or may not be the right thing for you to do at first. The important thing is that you get yourself around people. Avoid places and activities you associate with the other person; find new locations and activities to refocus your mind. If this means moving, seriously consider that possiblity.

2. Exercise

Physical activity has been proven to release endorphins into the bloodstream and improve our mental condition. We also feel physically stronger and more confident when exercising at least twice a week. This confidence can be helpful when you're out meeting new people.

3. Avoid addictive substances and activities

While this obviously includes drugs, alcohol and nicotine/tobacco, it's important to remember this also means abstaining from pornography and unwise sexual encounters (like hookups and one-night stands). Even milder activies like a seemingly harmless makeout or cuddle session with a friend, ex-lover or stranger can cause serious feelings of guilt, so avoid any affection-based activity while you're getting over the person you wish you could have.

4. Stop looking at his or her Facebook and other social media pages

Remove this person as your friend; block him or her, if necessary. Leave your phone and tablet at home, if you need to, and use a social media blocking site while at work, such as Anti-Social. If you have pictures of him or her in your house, car or at work, throw them away and don't look back. You will be freeing yourself of the person, and it will be easier to put him or her out of your mind.

5. Seek professional help

This is perhaps the most important step, if you still can't get over the person. Remember, there are social workers, counselors, psychologists and others who have dedicated their entire career to helping people overcome mental and emotional difficulties.

If you don't know where to turn, seek help from eccelsiastical or educational leaders, or even guidance from your HR manager at work; all these people have the resources to point you in the right direction toward the help you need.

When you start working with a counselor or psychologist, he or she may ask you to do difficult things. Remember that this is good for you, and that he or she does genuinely care about you and your progress. Talk with a parent or close friend about the work the counselor is having you do, and hold yourself accountable to them so you can progress quickly.

As you follow a counselor's guidance, you'll begin to feel more in control of your feelings and ultimately your life. As you grow as a person, seek to be your very best self, and you'll find the peace you're seeking.

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Why am I still single? https://www.familytoday.com/relationships/why-am-i-still-single/ Thu, 09 Jul 2015 06:30:01 +0000 http://www.famifi.com/oc/why-am-i-still-single/ While being single may seem difficult, we can find happiness in the dating process as we improve ourselves and our…

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Last year, it was reported that single people in America now outnumber married people. There are many theories and ideas about why this is. One might think that it would be easier to find a soul mate because of online dating sites, but it seems that this has changed our millennial mindset, making us pickier than ever.

The research group Euromonitor even predicts that by 2020, there will be 48 million new single residents, an uptick of over 20 percent of the current number.

Notwithstanding, many of us still crave companionship, a void that nothing else in life can seem to fill. The dating game can be exhausting and frustrating, especially when we experience repeated breakups, which causes real, actual grief. Once this grief is properly addressed, which can include therapy, we still may be left asking ourselves, "Why am I still single?"

My experience has shown me that usually it's not other people; it's me who needs to change. When I say this, I don't mean that we need to change who we are; rather, change what we're doing and why we're doing it.

1. Make it a matter of prayer

Communing with God to better understand His plan for you can help you find peace in a brutal world. Consider that God's ways are higher than ours; He has a plan for each of us.

God wants us to talk with Him. By putting Him at the forefront of our dating lives, asking Him questions, and turning to holy scripture for answers, we'll perhaps find some of the answers to why we haven't married yet.

God does want us to marry, have families and learn to become like Him. Seek His guidance in what it will take to get to that point.

2. Meet as many people as possible

Years ago, a good friend of mine told me that he had a goal to go on dates with 50 girls. I remember exclaiming that was a lot. He then told me that he wanted to go out with as many people as possible to learn what he did and didn't like. He kept a journal of these dates, and started to notice a consistent theme in his preferences.

My friend never made it to his goal of 50, because along the way, he met his wife. By the time she came along, it was apparent to my friend that this wonderful woman would make an excellent companion. He moved quickly and asked her to marry him. She accepted, and they have a wonderful life and a cute little boy.

From this experience, it's apparent that putting ourselves out there will broaden our opportunities. If my friend hadn't been going places where he knew he could meet quality girls, he wouldn't have had the opportunity to meet and date his wife.

Use every avenue possible to put yourself in front of people. As you are out there, remember that you may get rejected from time to time. That's OK. Take those experiences, learn from them, then move on to meeting more people. If you follow this pattern, you'll find rejection happens less and less.

3. Make a list of qualities you find attractive

Also, make a list of things that aren't attractive to you. From these two lists, pick three things you absolutely must have, three things you absolutely can't stand and then discard the rest.

No one is perfect, so simply focus on the values and attributes in a person that are most important to you.

Finally, make a third list, but make it about you. What do you need to do to be deserving of this ideal mate? Only you can answer these questions, but seeking out the advice of family and close friends in this regard will help you narrow down your best and worst qualities.

From this final list, make any necessary changes in your personal behavior, and hold yourself accountable to someone (such as a parent or best friend) to measure your progess. During this time, it's important that you keep dating, because this will give you realtime feedback about your improvements.

4. Be kind and stay positive

Kindness goes a long way, especially in the dating realm. This isn't to say that you should go on a pity date with everyone who shows interest; rather, politely declining an invitation in a kind way will do a lot for your personal self worth, and it will make it easier to stay within your preferences.

Staying positive can be tough, especially if it's been a while since you've been in a relationship, but focus on the good things in your life. Keep your friends and family close; exercise; read; expand your hobbies and talents.

Eventually, for most of us, the right person does come along. Until then, if you are the very best person you can be, you can find happiness in the single life.

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Did you solve it? Be sure to share it with your friends. Here are some more cool brain teasers for you to solve:

Triangular Numbers

Do you know what a triangular number is? Numbers that fall into this pattern are

3, 6, 10, 15, 21, ???

Here's how it works (notice the triangle):

3

X

X X

6

X

X X

X X X

10

X

X X

X X X

X X X X

15

X

X X

X X X

X X X X

X X X X X

21

X

X X

X X X

X X X X

X X X X X

X X X X X X

Can you figure out the next number in the pattern?

Spelling Game

Spelling out numbers (e.g. "one, two, three"¦") how long will it be until you encounter the letter "a" ?

Dirt

How much dirt is in a hole 3 feet wide, two feet long and 5 feet deep?

Birthday

Dennis was born on Halloween, but his birthday is always in the Spring. How does this happen?

Scary Dream

Mr. Wilford was a well-to-do businessman in Philadelphia. One late evening at the office, the nighttime security guard approached him and told him he shouldn't drive to New York the next day because he had dreamed the night before about a terrible car crash Mr. Wilford would be involved in.

Mr. Wilford ignored the warning. There was no accident, and when he returned to Philadelphia the next week, he promptly had the security guard fired. Why?

Click here for the answers.

Primal Math makes learning a whole lot more fun! Check them out on Facebook:www.Facebook.com/PrimalMath or download their new Zombie Fish Bits app (available in the app store).

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How quickly can you and your child figure this out? https://www.familytoday.com/self-care/how-quickly-can-you-and-your-child-figure-this-out/ Thu, 27 Nov 2014 09:30:00 +0000 http://www.famifi.com/oc/how-quickly-can-you-and-your-child-figure-this-out/ Check out these brainteasers and see if you can solve them more quickly than your child can!

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4 + 4 x 4 - 4 + 4 =

a) 32

b) 20

c) 16

d) 36

If 4 = 16

5=25

6=36

7=49

8= ___

How many squares do you see?

Primal Math just made learning a little less boring and a lot more fun. If you and your kids want more fun math games, check out Primal Math on Facebook:www.Facebook.com/PrimalMath or download their new Zombie Fish Bits app (free for a limited time).

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This question will prove who is smartest: you or your kids https://www.familytoday.com/family/this-question-will-prove-who-is-smartest-you-or-your-kids/ Sun, 23 Nov 2014 22:00:00 +0000 http://www.famifi.com/oc/this-question-will-prove-who-is-smartest-you-or-your-kids/ Here are some more great brainteasers to do with your kids... see which of you can figure it out first!

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What answer did you get? Go grab a calculator and see how well you did. Share it with your friends to see if they can get it right, too!

Here are a few more teasers to try with your kiddos:

Dennis the cabbie

A cabbie named Dennis is known for his superb driving record. Dennis began his day going down the street in front of his house headed South. He turned right at the stop sign, but he breezed right through without stopping. At the next intersection, he turned left—even though there was a "no left turn" sign. A few blocks later, he turned left at a red light and went down a one-way street headed the wrong direction. But Dennis never broke any traffic laws. How could this be possible?

Answer: He was walking

Q: What number comes next? 0, 2, 4, 12, 48,

A: 240

How?

2 x 0 = 0

2 x 1 = 2

2 x (2 x 1) = 4

2 x (3 x 2 x 1) = 12

2 x (4 x 3 x 2 x 1) = 48

2 x (5 x 4 x 3 x 2 x 1) = 240

Primal Math just made learning a little less boring and a lot more fun. If you and your kids want more fun math games, check out Primal Math on Facebook: www.Facebook.com/PrimalMath or download their new Zombie Fish Bits app.

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