When you have kids, you are automatically on display 24/7. Everything you do, they see and they learn from your example. Your marriage is no exception. There are certain things to do (and don't do) to raise your child with a healthy view of marriage. Here are four ways to give a healthy view of marriage.

1. Always show affection

Don't be afraid to show affection with your partner in front of your kids. Hug, kiss, dance, hold hands, use sappy nicknames- do it all! It will not only show your child that you really love your spouse, but also that it is important to show them that you love them. There is nothing wrong with a little PDA, as long as it's kept PG for your kids. They will learn to become comfortable with the mushy stuff and want it in their own relationships.

2. Fight and make-up

No marriage is perfect. There will be disagreements no matter how much you love each other. It is important to show your child that fights happen, but it is also VERY important to show them how to make up with each other. Fighting in front of a child is tricky. It can lead them to feel scared or worried about your relationship with your spouse, so you need to be aware of that and reassure them.

It is also important to fight in a way that is not extreme (no screaming, name calling or physical fighting, of course) and showing your child that even though you disagree from time to time, it doesn't mean you will be getting divorced or that you hate each other. Instead, you can disagree but still get along.

Make sure you tell each other sorry and forgive each other in front of your kids so they also learn how to make up from a fight.

3. Discuss your family goals

Discussing your hopes, dreams and goals for yourself and your family is a great way to teach a child that marriage is not only about the mushy stuff, but also working together towards a common goal.

Involve them in this process as well. Have them help with the goals. Pick places they want to go on vacation. Have them help with savings and budgets to make it happen. All of these activities help them to learn how to make and keep goals as well.

4. Have a date night every week

Making each other a priority is a great quality to teach your children. Have a date night every week. Whether it is going out on a date, or staying in and having some alone time together, make it work. Teach your kids that just because you are married does not mean you forget about spending time with each other. You have to put work into your marriage in order to keep it going; teaching your children that it doesn't just keep going on its own is an important quality for them to learn.

Now, here are the ways to ruin your marriage...

1. Speak badly about your spouse

One of the worst things you can do in front of your kids is to speak badly about your spouse in front of them. Not only does it teach them that it is okay to speak bad about other people, but also that you have feelings you are not sharing with your spouse. If you have a concern or a problem, you should speak directly to them about it to their face, not behind their back.

2. Question their parenting skills

It is important that you are a united front. When you undermine or question a decision they've made in front of your kids, it shows you are not united at all. This can be very dangerous. It can teach your kids that they can play each of you. They know if you say no, it is possible your spouse will say yes. They pick up on these things super quick, and it is important that you are always on the same page with each other.

3. Make them the bad guy

One big parenting mistake not to teach your kid, is to make the other parent the bad guy. It may be easy to blame them for a decision that your kids don't like, that way they can be upset with your spouse and not you, but it sets a bad example. It not only teaches your child that one of you is the "bad" one and one the "good" one, but it also makes you seem like you're not in agreement with each other. Make sure your child knows that you are both in agreement with whatever it is you are telling them.

While you may not get all of these right the first time, it is important to remember that your kids are always watching you, so make sure you are showing them what to do, not what not to do!

If you slip up, it's okay, just make sure to communicate with your children about what you should have done. They will understand that marriage is not easy, neither is being a parent, but owning up to your mistakes is all a part of life!

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Finding your forever person is no easy task, but it is possible ... especially if you look for certain qualities. There are particular qualities that you can look for in a person that will help you know if he is your perfect match or not. Oh, and just remember - he may not be perfect at the following six qualities, but as long as he's trying, he is your forever person.

1. He puts others first

A true gentleman is someone who puts others first. Whether it's stopping to help a car pulled over on the side of the road or spending Christmas morning feeding the homeless, someone who serves others with no thought of reward is someone who you want to keep around forever. A person like this values humankind, is happy when others are happy, and has a deep kindness for others.

2. He forgives easily

We all make mistakes, so finding someone who understands that and forgives easily is important. Does it mean you will never fight or get angry? No. It simply means you both understand that you don't always see eye-to-eye, but being able to move on, overcome arguments and forgive each other is how you will stay together forever.

3. He stays humble

In life, sometimes there are highs and sometimes there are lows. Staying humble through it all is a sign of a truly good person. It's easy to let worldly things become more important than family and humility - you probably know lots of people who focus on getting bigger house and a nicer car, instead of focusing on appreciating what's really important.

Being able to stay grounded (no matter what is going on in your life) shows a person's true character. There is nothing wrong with being successful, but easily forgetting about things like humility, gratitude, family and friends isn't a quality you want in your forever person.

4. He lets you love him

Someone who welcomes you into their life, learns to lean on you, asks you for help and allows you to be there for them is someone you can spend forever with. Far too often people are too proud to ask for help. They don't like to show their needs because they feel it's a sign of weakness, but a relationship will never last unless you can both be open with each other.

5. He makes you a priority

In order for him to be your forever person, he has to put you first. Above work, friends, kids, parents and everything else in his life. That doesn't mean he forgets who he is or becomes obsessed with you, just that he realizes you are his priority, just as he is yours. Your forever person will do things he doesn't like to do just for you, be willing to make compromises and will want to make you happy.

6. He gets you

Most of all he has to get you. He has to understand your quirks and love you for them. He has to know when to push you and when to encourage. And, he has to understand your values and who you are. If he gets you, then he will be more understanding of your mistakes, more supportive of your goals and work with you, not against you.

All of these qualities are not only true for him but should apply to you as well. If you are humble, kind, make him a priority and strive to be the best person for him, then you both will will learn to bend, grow and help each other through this crazy life.

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Children's meltdowns are bound to happen no matter if you are the worst mom ever or mother-of-the-year. Most kids aren't cognitively developed enough to see reason, so when something doesn't make sense to them, it can result in a meltdown. They usually happen at the worst time and in the worst place. It may be hard to prevent them from happening, but there are some ways to get them to stop much better than a good old time-out. Here are six alternatives.

1. Change the topic

If your child is fixated on something and can't seem to let go of the fact that you said no, not now, or even yes (but not in the way they wanted you to) and they start to go into tantrum mode, change the topic. It has to be a really good topic change like "What do you want for dinner?" or even better, "What do you want for dessert?" Remind them that only non-tantrum throwers get dessert and have them help you pick it out.

If food bribes are not your thing, talk about what they did in school, who they sat by at lunch or which Disney character is their favorite. Whatever it is you know they like, change the topic to that. It may switch them out of the tantrum faster than you know.

2. Laugh

Be careful with this one; it may backfire on you. Some kids get even more mad when they think you are laughing at them. But if done right, laugher can often fix things in a flash. It shows them you are not mad, allows you (and them) to make light of the situation and brings them back around to reason. Try touching their nose or tickling their feet to help them shake the meltdown in a hurry.

3. Give choices

Kid's logic is not always easy to understand, but one thing they get is a choice. When they're losing it, open-ended questions like "What can I do for you?" or "Why are you upset?" don't work. Give them a choice. "Do you want one or none?" "Do you want to leave or continue to play?" Giving them options makes them stop and pick. Not all kids will respond quickly and calmly, but give it a try and see if this can snap them out of it faster than a time-out.

4. Practice meditation

You're most likely not going to pull out a yoga mat in the middle of aisle six while your child is screaming about wanting Cocoa Puffs, but if you practice mediation in your home with your kids, it can help you avoid meltdowns altogether. Meditation can teach how to handle hard situations, what to do when you are stressed and how to live more peacefully.

When you see your child start to get upset, encourage them to take deep breaths. Ask them to close their eyes and count to 10. This can help them calm down before the meltdown gets full-blown. If anything, it will help you stay more calm during the experience.

5. Use a warning system

Sometimes it just takes a quick reminder of what the rules are to get some kids to snap out of a tantrum. If you have made it clear what the consequences are for different misbehaviors (and you've followed through on those when needed), give them a warning. Maybe it's counting to three or giving them the death glare, or perhaps it's actually saying, "This is your one and only warning." Whatever your call sign is, use it to stop the meltdown from escalating.

6. Join them

When all else fails, join them! We usually use this tactic at home (where it's less embarrassing) but it works nine out of 10 times. Get on the floor, pound it with your fists, close your eyes and cry! Most the time our child looks at us like we are crazy, but it gets them to stop. I like to think it is because they realize how dumb they must look doing the same thing, not because they think WE are the ones who are ridiculous. Hey, if you can't beat them, join them!

Kids are amazingly wonderful, but there are times that you wonder what you got yourself into! We all need some advice every now and again, so hopefully one of these time-out alternatives will help you stop a meltdown much faster than you thought possible.

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Whether it's someone you're dating, friends with, or even a spouse, sometimes it is hard to be direct. While women tend to be pretty good at being subtle, men often use the art of subtlety to try and tell you something in a less-direct way. If you notice any of these five signs coming from your man, be warned - it may be his way of trying to get away from you.

1. He doesn't fight back

When someone is ready to leave the relationship, they will stop putting effort into it. Sometimes effort comes in the form of defending themselves, pointing out things they would like you to change or making sure their opinion is heard ... actions that often provoke a fight or argument. But it's not the fighting you should be worrying about; it's when you are no longer fighting that should make you worry. If you and a loved one aren't fighting, it's because they've either magically started agreeing with everything you do/think/say, or they have stopped caring enough to contradict you. This lack of effort is a huge warning sign you shouldn't ignore.

2. He tells you all his flaws

In a relationship, we put our best selves forward. We want the person we are with to admire and feel proud to be with us, so we tend to play up the good, and play down the bad. If you notice your man suddenly seems to tell you his flaws more than his good qualities, this could mean he is trying to show his bad side, so you will break up with him. He doesn't want to have to do the deed himself, so he tries to make it easy on you - no one wants to be with someone who lies, cheats and doesn't use his blinker.

3. He doesn't keep his commitments

It's normal to forget a lunch date every once in a while, or miss your weekly yoga date because he had to work late. What isn't common though is for someone to stop keeping any of their commitments, no matter how large or small, or how important they were. If he's stood you up more times than he's kept his promises, something is up. "Forgetting" commitments may be his way of saying he doesn't want to spend time with you.

4. He stops complimenting you

If you notice that he no longer holds your hand, tells you how good you look or compliments your achievements, then he's definitely not interested in keeping the relationship going. Some men are more comfortable with compliments than others, but all men know they need to tell a woman how beautiful she is both inside and out. Some do it with words, others bring flowers or simply give a look that lets you know what he is thinking. If it's been a while since you've gotten any compliments, go fishing for them. If you come up empty, then it's time to cut him loose.

5. He doesn't initiate conversations

Do you always call him? Are you the first to send a text? Does he ever sit down and strike up a conversation with you? If you notice that he is never the one to initiate the conversation, then there is something wrong. Even the strong, silent type can speak first occasionally. It's also obvious he is done when all his responses are one word answers.

If you're experiencing two of these warning signs, find time to talk about your relationship. Maybe there is just a miscommunication that can be worked out. If he is displaying three or more of these, then he obviously needs to figure things out because someone like you deserves better.

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There are things we don't realize can affect our ability to have children. Illness, age, past pregnancies and a few other factors all can affect our body's ability to have children.

While the advancements of modern medicine can help your body carry and deliver a healthy baby (despite these issues), it's still important to consult with your doctor before you get pregnant. Be sure to contact your doctor if you're displaying any one of these four signs:

1. You have a major health concern

Even if your health issue is not related to past pregnancies, it can still affect your ability to get pregnant, carry a baby and deliver her safely. Anything from back problems to anemia can interrupt a pregnancy or prevent a delivery.

Most health issues will not stop you from having a baby, but depending on the severity and condition, it definitely can. It's important to know how pregnancy will affect your current condition - something your doctor can help you figure out. If you've never had a baby before you may not realize what your body goes through for those nine months, not to mention the delivery. If you are not physically prepared, it may have devastating results for you and your child, making it even more crucial you speak with a doctor before getting pregnant.

2. You've had multiple C-sections

Even with today's medical care, it is not safe physically to have multiple C-sections. Each time you have another C-section you are re-opening a wound. You are cutting through scar tissue, moving organs, and disrupting wounds that have healed. While it is usually medically OK to have more than one C-section, once you have had three or four, doctors advise against having more. It really takes a toll on your body and can cause major complications.

If you have had multiple C-sections, it is definitely a warning sign that your body is giving up its ability to have more children.

3. You had/have some form of diabetes

Diabetes is a complicated health concern. Because it has to do with how your body processes glucose, the impact pregnancy has on your hormones adds some extra complications.

Gestational diabetes is a condition that can occur during pregnancy, and ends afterwards. If you have gestational diabetes, it can affect the baby's health (and yours of course) and can give you lasting consequences afterwards. However, if you have type 1 or type 2 diabetes, you will definitely need your doctor's help to set up a plan to stay healthy throughout your pregnancy. If you have had gestational diabetes with previous pregnancies it does not mean you can't have another baby, but you will need your doctor's guidance.

4. You're over the age of 40

Time has a way of getting away from us. You may be putting off having children until you're mentally ready, have enough money or have the right house but before you know it, you're over the age of 40 and future pregnancies have gotten a bit more complicated.

A woman's body can only ovulate for so long, and usually between the age of 45-55 she goes through menopause, which means you won't be able to get pregnant. Plus, the likelihood of having a child with health complications or birth defects heightens significantly when you are over 40 years old. While it is not impossible to conceive, carry and deliver a baby at this age, it's just a lot more dangerous for the mother and baby.

All four of these signs are just that - signs. They are not absolutes; medical miracles happen every day. But just knowing the risks and talking them over with your doctor can help you decide if you'll be able to carry your child or be encouraged to looking into other options.

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Having a deep connection with another person can be easy - sometime you connect right away and find it's not difficult to relate and share everything with them. Others have a harder time going to that deeper level ... but it's not impossible.

The first step to making this deep soul connection (and maintaining it if you're already there) is to prepare for that connection. It is not something to take lightly or pencil into your calendar to happen next Tuesday. It's something you need to prepare for in these four ways:

1. Make time

A deep, soulful connection is not something that can happen in 20 minutes, but will take time daily, over a time. Consistently go for a walk, window shop, share a meal and just talk. Don't let other distractions like meetings, work, car pools and even kids get in the way.

If you are trying to re-connect with your spouse, then a lot of time may be needed to connect that deeply. It won't happen in one attempt or date, but rather a series of dates and conversations. If you feel your connection has started to fade and you want to take action before you lose it completely, make more time to spend together.

No matter what the scenario or stage you're at, it's important to make an effort to have that one-on-one time together, so you can open up and be ready to really connect with each other.

2. Be open with your thoughts and emotions

When you are trying to create a deep connection with someone, be ready to share your thoughts, desires, dreams, emotions ... everything. Even if you've been married for years, you've changed. You have different dreams and desires than you had when you first got married. If you desire a deep connection with your spouse, then you have to be prepared to share these dreams.

By talking about these feelings and aspirations, you are baring part of your soul to your spouse. It may be scary. You are opening yourself up to vulnerability and heartache, but the reward is worth it. Being able to be your complete self with someone else is truly an incredible thing.

3. Be ready to receive

Just as you need to open up, so does your spouse. You need to prepare for them to be honest. Keep in mind that you may not like everything they have to say. You may not agree with all of their opinions, and it may be hard to hear everything that they have gone through that brought them to this very moment.

Don't interrupt, be ready to listen and give them comfort when they need it. Take time to digest what they are saying before you react to it. If you prepare for this type of conversation, you will be more likely to respond in a sensitive and loving way.

4. Be willing to maintain it

Once you establish a deep connection, you have to be willing to put in the work to keep it going. A connection that soulful doesn't automatically stick around once you achieve it once. If you don't consistently nurture and work at it, it just may go away. Make it a point to share the details of your day with your spouse. How did you feel when this person said this or did that? Are you still on track when it comes to your dreams and desires in the workplace? How can your spouse help? Don't be afraid to ask the hard questions - they let you start a conversation and let you show you are willing to help come to a solution.

It may be an onoing project, but the more you prepare, the more ready you will be to get that deep, meaningful connection. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it.

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Even though times have changed drastically, a man is still expected to fill certain roles in a woman's life. He is her protector, provider (not of money, but of love and comfort) and treats her like a lady. This, of course, is a very general description, but most woman want their man to go through these five crossroads before they decide to love him:

He has ambition

He may not have found the perfect job yet or hasn't completed his education, but if he has drive and ambition, that is what she wants to see. Knowing he cares about doing something with his life is unfortunately not as common as it once was. Seeing that he has a plan, goals and desires is important when considering to spend a lifetime with him.

He has manners

A man that knows how and when to use manners shows a certain maturity. He has progressed beyond farts and boogers and knows how to give a compliment, open a door, offer a hand and he knows when to leave potty humor (and all that goes with it) behind. This is an important step in a man's life. It doesn't mean he is always serious and can't belch the alphabet anymore, but rather, he knows when it is appropriate and when it is not.

He has a good relationship with his mom

A woman likes to see that a man has a healthy relationship with his mom. He loves her, respects her and treats her right, yet he doesn't overdo it. He doesn't have her do his laundry (especially if he is no longer living at home) or come over and clean his place. He is a grown man. But he still has a relationship with his mom. Seeing how he treats his mother is a good indication of how he was raised and how he will treat his wife in the future.

He has friends

It is important for a guy to have friends. Guys need guy time, and knowing your man can get his frustrations out, let off steam and get rowdy with the guys is perfectly fine. It means he will get it out of his system, so when you are with him, you can meet each other's needs in other ways. Then you can have your much needed adult conversations, foot rubs and quiet evenings at home.

He has experienced heartache

Even though you don't want your loved ones to suffer, it is actually good for them. It builds character, teaches them to get back up and shows their determination and perseverance. It is actually good to know that a man you are considering giving your love to has already gone through some hard experiences. You know he has made it through hard times and learned all of the qualities listed above. It also means he may be more cautious about who he loves. This is good, because if he is devoting his time to you, it means he must really care for you already.

Love can outweigh even the biggest of flaws, but being a bit picky about who you choose to stay in love with is OK. The above qualities are all things women look for in a man, but it doesn't mean they are all 100 percent true for every person. Just because a man does not have a relationship with his mother does not mean he will be a bad husband; it just means you may have to search for other ways to learn how he'll treat you. Keep an open mind, but be mindful that your feelings matter too.

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Our culture, religion, and society often give contradicting ideas about sex. It can be difficult to know what is appropriate and what is not. Being a woman brings its own complication to the topic. There are a lot of misconceptions and backwards ideas out there surrounding the topic that destroys their sexuality.

Here are five common things most women believe about sex that are hurting their own sexuality:

1. It is a forbidden topic

Many women grow up believing that it is taboo to talk about sex. It is a topic that is off limits. Unfortunately, when you don't speak about it, important aspects that should be discussed aren't. This can be dangerous, especially if a woman has questions, or worse, is having a problem either emotionally or physically in regard to sex. If she doesn't feel like she can talk about it, these problems may go unresolved and can lead to more serious issues.

2. Only the man should want it

In movies and TV shows, nine out of 10 times it is the man that initiates sex. We are shown growing up that the man always wants it and the woman usually has a headache. No matter how true this scenario may be, it sends the message that it is odd for a woman to want to have sex and the man to not want it. This teaches women to squash their own desires and ignore their sexuality.

3. You should automatically know about sex

It's funny that we don't usually talk about sex as a society, yet it is expected that we should just automatically know all there is to know. Even though there is sex education in school, it doesn't teach us everything, like how it should feel, warning signs, how to not use it as a bargaining piece and that it is normal to have certain urges and desires. All of these things and more are important to developing a woman's sexuality and finding out what makes that part of her happy.

4. Sex is just the act

There is so much more that goes into a woman's sexuality than just the act of sex. There is flirting, kissing and romance to name a few. Discovering her sexuality is a process. It doesn't happen as soon as she says "I do" or even after her first few experiences, but rather develops over time. It takes a lot of practice and discovery to uncover her sexuality.

5. It is only appropriate for the bedroom

The idea that you should leave sex and all talk of it in the bedroom limits your romantic development. This doesn't mean you should start being accused of public indecency, but rather don't be afraid to try new things and new places, perhaps outside your bedroom doors. It adds spice to your relationship and keeps things exciting.

To fully develop your sexuality, you may need to step outside of your comfort zone. It may mean talking about it with a loved one or medical professional. It may mean changing up your normal routine. It may also mean discovering things on your own by reading and researching. The important thing is not to be afraid to make a change.

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There are some simple gestures and touches that only someone who truly loves you would do. If your man does any of these, it usually means he's here to stay:

1. Holds your hand

It sounds simple enough, but a man who is not afraid to hold your hand in public is a keeper. This intimate touch can reassure you of your feelings for each other. You're not going to hold hands if you're feeling mad, insecure, guilty or upset. It's a great indication that you have a connection much deeper than just friends.

2. Hugs you

A hug can be a simple quick squeeze or a longer full-body embrace. If your man goes for the latter, then it means his feelings are pure. A hug can be very intimate, and romantic, and it can mean much more than it appears on the outside.

3. Lets you cry on his shoulder

If he is comfortable enough to let you cry on his shoulder, then he is sticking around. A lot of men have a hard time when women get emotional. They have a hard enough time with their own emotions, let alone someone else's.

If you are at a place in your relationship where you can share these types of breakdowns, then you obviously trust him. If he is comforting you and trying to help you feel better, he truly cares about you. That means he's there for the long haul!

4. Holds your hair back

Any man who is willing to be there for you when you're sick isn't going anywhere any time soon! If he is comfortable enough to hold your hair back, bring you a whatever you need and help you get over your illness, then he really is committed. Don't let him go.

5. Cuddles you

Guys are not known for wanting to cuddle. It's not usually something they are super comfortable with. If your man lets you curl up in his arms while you watch a movie or snuggles next to you in front of the fireplace, then he is there to stay.

6. Rubs your back

You're not going to see your friend giving you a back rub or caressing your back just because. That is a sign of someone who has romantic feelings for you. It is a kind, sweet, enduring gesture that is more intimate than it appears from the outside.

7. Gives you a foot massage

Friends and family give each other foot rubs all the time, but if your man is willing to spend the time to give you a really good foot massage, then he is sticking around. Unless he is a professional massage therapist, he is not going to massage your feet because he's feeling nice. It is because he loves you and wants you to be happy.

These physical signs of affection can be simple and subtle, but they are all much more intimate then they seem. It's these kind gestures that tell you that your man really loves you and doesn't plan on going anywhere anytime soon!

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Not every daughter/mother-in-law relationship is perfect. There are some that are downright ugly. It can be very stressful to have a rocky relationship with your mother-in-law. It can not only put a strain on you, but your relationship with your husband as well. Sometimes your husband may not even notice the things she does that hurt you, which just makes everything worse.

It may feel like there is nothing you can do to fix things, but actually, there is. If your intention is to fix or improve the relationship, there are several things you can do to make it better. Here are six ways to get her to love you:

1. Humble yourself

The hardest thing to do is to humble yourself. It is easy to stay mad, take offense to everything that is said and done against you and hold a grudge, but until you are ready to forgive, to really humble yourself and accept her for who she is, you will never move on. You will stay in an endless cycle of fighting and drive the wedge between the two of you even deeper.

Try to get to know your mother-in-law on a personal level instead of just as your husband's mom. This may help you understand her motives against you, which you can turn into understanding and kindness instead of defensiveness.

2. See things through her eyes

It is easy to get in a habit of feeling sorry for yourself - to only see how she is hurting you and causing stress in your marriage, but try to see the situation through her eyes. Imagine your own son going off and marrying someone who basically replaces you. A son really has to make a break from his mother in order to cling to his wife and rely on her instead of his mom. When you realize how hard it may be for her to take a step back, it may be easier to understand where she is coming from.

3. Have a heart-to-heart

There may be tears, there may be yelling and it may be the hardest thing you've ever done, but you have to talk to her. You have to tell her how you feel and how your relationship with her is affecting your relationship with your husband. And if there are kids involved, it may affect her relationship with her grandkids too.

She may not even realize she is overly critical or complains more than compliments. And it gives her a chance to talk to you too. You may discover that you actually both feel the same way, or you may discover that she will never change and she will still drive you crazy, but at least you know you've tried everything.

4. Thank her

In the whirlwind of your relationship with your husband, you may have been so wrapped up in him that you never took the time to really thank his mom for raising him well. It may sound cheesy and a bit over-the-top, but it actually means a lot. Take a moment and talk to her or even send her a note that tells her what a great job she did raising the man you love. It will go a long way with her.

5. Communicate more

Take the time to include her in your relationship. It doesn't mean to share every intimate detail, but send her pictures, text her just because or invite her to dinner. Don't have your husband be the only one that calls her; you can also reach out. When you open the lines of communication, it can really change your relationship for the better.

6. Stop being so sensitive

Try to not be overly sensitive. You may be sure that jab was meant for you, but don't let it get under your skin. It can be easy to interpret every comment and facial expression as negative, but it may not be you at all. Perhaps she had a bad day or is upset about something else. Even if it is you, don't think that it is. Instead, be the bigger person. Don't stoop to her level; it will only backfire.

In the long run, this person is your mother-in-law, and she is not going anywhere. She is not someone you can just move away from and forget. You can try and tolerate her as best as you can, but if you really want her to love you, try some of these tactics instead.

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