Herb Scribner – FamilyToday https://www.familytoday.com Here today, better tomorrow. Thu, 26 Oct 2017 03:18:00 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.8.3 https://wp-media.familytoday.com/2020/03/favicon.ico Herb Scribner – FamilyToday https://www.familytoday.com 32 32 Olympian Shawn Johnson opens up about miscarriage in raw and powerful video https://www.familytoday.com/family/olympian-shawn-johnson-opens-up-about-miscarriage-in-raw-and-powerful-video/ Thu, 26 Oct 2017 03:18:00 +0000 http://www.famifi.com/oc/olympian-shawn-johnson-opens-up-about-miscarriage-in-raw-and-powerful-video/ Olympic gymnast Shawn Johnson and her husband, former NFL long snapper Andrew East, recently opened up about the couple's struggle…

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Retired Olympic gymnast Shawn Johnson and her husband, former NFL long snapper Andrew East, recently opened up about the couple's struggle with a miscarriage in an emotional video that gained popularity over the weekend.

Johnson posted the video - called "pregnancy + heartbreak" - on her YouTube channel this Saturday. The video shows Johnson and East's initial joy over finding out they're expecting a baby to the sadness they felt when they learned Johnson suffered a miscarriage.

The video has been viewed 1.6 million times on YouTube.

You can watch the entire video - which ESPN described as "raw and incredibly powerful" - here.

The 20-minute video, which was featured on Good Morning America, starts with Johnson discovering her pregnancy, followed by her reaction to the news.

"My instant reaction was to start bawling out of sheer terror," she said. "I'm gonna be a mom. I have a human growing inside of me. What?!"

The video shows East's jubilant reaction to the pregnancy announcement, too, as he opens a package of his favorite shoes (Converse), but for babies, according to The Huffington Post.

But Johnson's story takes a turn for the worse as she reveals she suffered "really bad stomach pains and a lot of bleeding" the day after she announced her pregnancy.

"It's been an emotional roller coaster," she said. "You go from shock to 'holy crap' to 'I can't do this' to 'let's do this.' And now it's like 'pray to God I can do this.'"

She and East attended a doctor's appointment for blood work and an ultrasound. That's where they learned that Johnson had experienced a miscarriage.

About 10 to 20 percent of pregnancies end in a miscarriage, according to the Mayo Clinic.

But the clinic said the actual number is likely higher than that since "many miscarriages occur so early in pregnancy that a woman doesn't realize she's pregnant."

Johnson, who has often shared uplifting messages about her Christian faith, did offer an inspiring note at the end of the video for herself and anyone experiencing the same emotions.

"The past 48 hours have been some of the happiest, scariest, and saddest times of my life," she wrote. "My husband Andrew and I found out that we were unexpectedly pregnant, only to find out hours later some tragic news. I have been crying more than I ever have, but am still optimistic for what is next."

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She only had a few months to live, but now this ‘angel’ celebrates her fourth birthday https://www.familytoday.com/family/she-only-had-a-few-months-to-live-but-now-this-angel-celebrates-her-fourth-birthday/ Tue, 29 Aug 2017 03:34:00 +0000 http://www.famifi.com/oc/she-only-had-a-few-months-to-live-but-now-this-angel-celebrates-her-fourth-birthday/ Here's to continuing to defy the odds.

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A young Utah girl continues to defy the odds, living even though doctors said she wouldn't celebrate her first birthday.

Brielle Burr, who is now 4 years old, was born with Beare Stevenson syndrome, which causes premature fusing of the skull. Only about 20 people have the disease worldwide, with most babies dying by the age of 1, according to the National Institute of Health.

Doctors said she'd only have a few months to live, according to People magazine.

But four years have since passed, and Burr just celebrated her fourth birthday.

"We hope to continue beating the odds," Candace Burr, her mother, told People magazine. "In spite of all her challenges, Brielle has shown feistiness and spirit from the very beginning. Her positive attitude helps everyone who meets her to realize that they have nothing to be negative about."

Candace Burr said she had a tough time planning her daughter's future, too, because she never knew how long her baby would live.

"I never bought Christmas presents too early and I didn't plan a Halloween costume for Brielle too soon," she told People, "because it was difficult to think of her not being there for those things. But now, I've finally decided that's just no way to live, so we absolutely plan the future with Brielle in it. She's a fighter and we're not going to give up on her."

Now, Brielle and her older sister, Kaya, celebrate Halloween too by dressing up in matching costumes every year, according to People magazine.

Candace Burr said the sisters dressed as Elsa and Anna from "Frozen," as well as Ariele and Flounder from "The Little Mermaid."

The sisters are still planning this year's outfit.

"Every day is a gift, but she's 4 now," Candace Burr told People, "and we never thought we'd be here. Who's to say we can't double that this year?"

The couple started a Facebook page called Brielle's Story, where the family will post videos and photos that honor their daughter.

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In 2015, the couple hosted a Easter egg hunt to raise money for their daughter, according to KSL.

People donated to the family to help them take care of their daughter.

"She's really the sweetest thing," Brielle's aunt Cynthia Burr said. "She's just an angel."

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6 Tinder users to watch out for when swiping https://www.familytoday.com/self-care/6-tinder-users-to-watch-out-for-when-swiping/ Mon, 28 Nov 2016 06:30:01 +0000 http://www.famifi.com/oc/6-tinder-users-to-watch-out-for-when-swiping/ Some users aren't exactly who they say they are.

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You've probably heard already, but people are using Tinder.

In fact, 13 million people are using Tinder overall with 10 million people opening the mobile app on a daily basis, research has found. And the majority of users - more than 50 percent - have come from the 18- to 24-year-old milennial demographic.

But with this online dating app, there comes a darker side. Not everyone online is who they say they are, and there are surely some profiles to watch out for.

Here's a list of six users to keep your eye on when you're swiping through.

The groupie

Group shots all around. This user has photos, but they're mostly of group shots taken with their friends on the sandy shores of the Pacific Ocean or at a late night bonfire. Be careful with this user - you may not know who you're going to be talking to, and they may not be very honest about themselves.

This users also committed one of the seven deadly sins of Tinder, if that tells you anything.

The no-face

So you're swiping through, having a good time and you fall upon a generic profile face without any real photos behind it. While this person could be good for you to show you don't care about looks, not placing any photo shows there's a sense of mistrust.

The odd photo

Seen a guy with a tiger? Or how about just a cupcake? What about a house or a tree? These type of photos are common on Tinder and don't really put you into direct conversation with someone. Though some have found the idea of dating a cupcake appealing.

The two-picture chump

There's definitely worse out there. But, come on, just two pictures? You can definitely do a lot better than that. Three should be the gold standard.

The one with no info

They got the photos, but they don't have any info. You can look through the photos, but won't learn anything about their personality. Not exactly a great option for dating.

The scammer

Yes, scammers exist on this new social media app. In fact, Tinder has been known quite recently for having scammers on their app. These people pretend to be regular users but end up trying to get more information.

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6 things to remember when you can’t find someone to marry https://www.familytoday.com/relationships/6-things-to-remember-when-you-cant-find-someone-to-marry/ Wed, 23 Nov 2016 09:32:55 +0000 http://www.famifi.com/oc/6-things-to-remember-when-you-cant-find-someone-to-marry/ Trouble finding love or getting married? That's OK. Living the single life isn't all that bad.

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The United States is a nation of singles.

According to a Quartz article, the United States is no longer made up of married couples. In fact, the country's 128.2 million singles account for 51.2 percent of the population, Quartz reported.

There has even been talk - seen in this article from FiveThirtyEight - that marriage overall is on the decline. But that doesn't mean that society's values have to be too - marriage is still something that Americans want, even if they're putting it off for a few years until they've accomplished career goals.

Of course, being single can be painful at points - here are nine reasons from Ryan O'Connell of Thought Catalog about why being single sucks - but there are benefits, too, you may not know about.

Here are six reasons why being single isn't always such a bad thing.

Being single is an art

Sure, being single isn't always easy.

But it is an art.

According to C. De Lima of Tiny Buddha, a website that promotes learning through wisdom, you can be single and happy at the same time by deepening your relationships with friendsa nd family.

De Lima wrote about her experience in a relationship for eight years before finding herself single at 31 years old. At first, she was afraid of being single at that age, but soon she learned to come to terms with it as friends and family gathered around to support her.

And being single allowed her to see that she shouldn't be afraid of love anymore, mostly because change - and finding someone new to love - is always good for growing and developing a personality.

"Sometimes change is the best thing for us," she wrote, "as it opens us up to new activities and environments."

The Bible says it's OK

If you're worried about being single, look no farther than the Bible to find reasons why it's OK to stay that way.

According to Open Bible, a Bible information website, there are a variety of verses within the word of God that point towards the benefits of being single. Many popular biblical figures - like Isaiah, Job and Ruth - preach about how being single can make people more spiritual and closer to God. It may even be a part of God's plan.

But it's Corinthians 7:26-40 that truly shows some of the benefits of running solo. The verse says the single life allows believers to focus more deeply on creating a stronger relationship with the Lord, instead of with a spouse.

"The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord," the verse reads. "But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided."

You gain a new network

Oh, you feel like you're #ForeverAlone?

Better think again.

As Kovie Biakolo of Thought Catalog points out, being single isn't necessarily alientating you from forming relationships with others. In fact, you join a whole class of people - the majority of the population, as previously mentioned - who are in a similar scenario.

"[B]eing single isn't a death sentence," Biakolo wrote. "It isn't a disaster - natural or man-made - that should make anyone feel inadequate. And you know what? Many (not all) single people do feel inadequate."

So while married couples can unite for their play-dates, singles can unite in their search for family.

Single people can change the world

Yes, you read that correctly. Singles are changing the world.

Forbes' Alyson Krueger wrote in her story "9 reasons to love being single" about how many singles are helping today's society and culture. She specifically referred to a book called "Going Solo," written by Eric Klinenberg, that takes a look into the lives of modern single Americans.

Since there are so many singles - more than 200 million - across the world, there's bound to be some changes in the way the world works, according to Klinenberg's book, reviewed by Forbes.

"It's one of the world's biggest social changes in the last 50 years," Klinenberg wrote in his book, according to Forbes. "It's the equivalent of being an anthropologist and discovering some giant island out there with 277 million people."

Being single prepares you for marriage

The single life gives you a chance to find the right person for you. Singles can move through different potential suitors and find the person who's going to make them happy for the rest of eternity.

And there are more benefits to getting involved in the dating scene than just finding the right person for you. The Christian Broadcasting Network highlighted that being single can help singles become more familiar with gender roles and develop their own personalities. But most of all, dating can prepare singles for marriage, CBN reported.

"Dating can help couples acquire the needed knowledge and skills for a successful marriage," according to CBN. "For example, dating helps develop a better understanding of each other's attitudes and behaviors, how to get along, and can increase your ability to discuss and solve relational problems."

You won't be one of these awkward people

OK, time for a little fun.

Take a look at BuzzFeed's list of awkward engagement pictures.

Once you see some of these awkward snapshots, you'll definitely be OK with being single for a bit longer.

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10 sayings you should never believe about marriage https://www.familytoday.com/relationships/10-sayings-you-should-never-believe-about-marriage/ Wed, 23 Nov 2016 06:30:00 +0000 http://www.famifi.com/oc/10-sayings-you-should-never-believe-about-marriage/ These are 10 different things people commonly say about marriage that you shouldn't believe.

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According to a report from the Pew Research Center, there are a rising amount of people in America who never have and never will get married, although the reasons for that are unclear.

Career goals, financial situations and general lifestyle choices impact the way Americans view marriage, as well as messages from friends, family and the media.

However, not all input and feedback from society accurately represents the time-honored tradition. Here are 10 things people often say about marriage that can be misleading without the right context.

You have to find the perfect partner

Do you really need to look for the perfect person to be with? According to The Huffington Post's Gal Szekely, finding Mr. or Mrs. Right isn't a necessity for a happy marriage, and can actually cause anxiety between partners who expect their significant others to meet an impossible standard.

"Of course no one is perfect, and when we compare our partners to this ideal, we are inevitably disappointed," Szekely wrote. "Then we make the mistake of thinking he or she is the wrong partner and throw away a relationship too early as a result."

Arguing will destroy your marriage

Some believe that getting into arguments and conflict can spell the end of a relationship. But as Dr. Gail Saltz told The Today Show, having some verbal disputes can create strength between partners.

Refusing to resolve a disagreement can cause problems, Saltz said, but arguing and coming to a conclusion or compromise can only create more harmony and intimacy between a married couple, despite the differences.

"How you negotiate those differences is predictive of how healthy a relationship you will have," Saltz wrote. "Arguing well can even result in further intimacy because it shows both of you that you can disagree yet find a way to compromise and still love each other."

You have to tell each other everything

Sharing intimate details about your thoughts, feelings and experiences can be positive for many married couples. But telling your spouse every detail isn't always helpful.

Deseret News National wrote about the different ways Facebook can destroy your marriage. One of the ways includes focusing too much on other people's Facebook lives and opinions, rather than on your own.

"Some would call this 'the Instagram effect,'but the idea is simple: You care more about what your friends and family are posting on Facebook than you do what your wife or husband is doing right in front of you," the National reported.

Be wary of the in-laws

When you really think about it, the in-laws aren't too scary.

In fact, by the time you're getting married, knowing who the in-laws are and how they act should have already been done. Whether it was when you were telling them you were getting married or some other scenario. There are ways to appease the in-laws to get to know them a little more, like taking them out for dinner or involving them in different activities that you and your spouse are doing, which might calm any stormy waters that may arise.

You need to work hard in a marriage

It's commonly heard that spouses need to work to keep a marriage going. But is it less about work and more about just paying attention to it? According to Psychology Today, the way you manage and maintain a marriage can do more help than simply working toward making it work. By the time two partners are ready to married, it should be more about keeping things going and growing rather than just making it work.

Marriage is a lot different than dating

Yes, marriage is different than dating is it's less about trying to impress your significant and more about staying with them. But there are ways to make sure your marriage is similar to dating, and doing so can give your marriage a boost.

She Knows, a marriage and relationship information website, looked at the different ways to make marriage a lot like dating, including going on dates, doing things with your spouse and learning from each other.

You may also want to follow the Deseret News National's 14 ways of keeping your loved one in love with you, since those have been noted to help couples out, too.

Money management can kill a marriage

Is one spouse more financially literate than the other? Or are you both unsure of how to manage your money?

Well, talking over the finances may help your marriage.

According to Bankrate, a financial information resource, when a married couple decides to talk through their financial problems and try and find solutions, it actually helps both spouses learn a little bit more about themselves and their partners. It also helps couples avoid some possibly devastating arguments.

"It's so emotionally loaded, representing power, security, control, self-esteem," said Olivia Mellan, a financial information author, to Bankrate. "You're not just fighting about the money; you're fighting about what the money means."

By opening up and being a little more honest about the finances, couples can move past the troubles and find potential positive solutions.

A good wife creates a good home

Yes, a good wife makes a good home.

But it's not the whole story.

The Wall Street Journal reported back in August that men doing housework can inspire their daughters to have high career goals. When the dads do the dishes or wash clothes, their daughters find inspiration and push to have careers that may be predominantly male, since they're seeing gender equality shine before their very eyes.

"By pitching in at home, fathers may be signaling to daughters that they can expect men to help with chores, allowing women more time for work," the Wall Street Journal reported.

Too many differences can destroy a marriage

Ever worried that you're too different from your spouse?

Well, just remember that opposites attract.

More than that, there are many married couples who are together despite some big differences in faith or politics, for example. According to WebMD, differences in politics can improve a marriage, especially because it allows both partners to see different sides of an argument or debate. And for faith, many interfaith couples tend to do well, even if their religious beliefs don't align, Deseret News National reported.

Marriage will change you completely

Some might be worried that marriage will change them. But according to Woman's Day,a health and wellness website, this isn't necessarily true. Married couples should understand that the person they're going to marry will have some qualities they may not enjoy, but the feeling is probably mutual, according to Gilda Carle, a marriage expert, who spoke to Woman's Day. What makes someone unique, is also what makes them special, and that changes and improvements can be made slowly.

"Over time, you can work on adapting to each other's habits and talking about the things that you really can change or let go," Carle said.

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Do boys and girls learn differently in school? https://www.familytoday.com/family/do-boys-and-girls-learn-differently-in-school/ Tue, 22 Nov 2016 14:27:01 +0000 http://www.famifi.com/oc/do-boys-and-girls-learn-differently-in-school/ Learning is different for boys and girls in schools. Here's how the two genders differ so much.

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If there's one company that knows how kids learn, it's Lego.

About 40 years ago, the toy company sent a letter out to a parent that explained how boys and girls aren't different when it comes to learning with toys, according to Quartz. This letter may have only recently surfaced online, but it's message is clear and pertinent to today: It doesn't matter what toys a boy and girl us. They will learn from playing as long as their imagination is right and they're willing to learn.

"The most important thing is to put the right material in their hands and let them create whatever appeals to them," the letter said.

According to The New Republic, boys and girls don't learn differently from each other, and gender-specific learning lessons and books don't help the opposite gender thrive. Books for boys don't help girls, and books for girls don't help boys, leaving both genders only getting half of the available help.

So boys and girls learn in much of the same ways. That said, they develop learning skills in different ways from a young age.

Girls usually learn more language skills when they're young. According to WebMD, the hippocampus, which is "critical to verbal memory storage," grows faster for girls, giving them a leg up on "verbal functions," like speech. Girls will take more consideration with speaking, too, giving themselves time to respond and calculate the right answer - where as boys are quick to jump into action and get their answers out quickly, WebMD reported.

According to Psych Central, girls are more organized with their papers, desks and books, and they take time to think over answers, which leads to girls getting better scores on tests, quizzes and exams, as Gnaulati of The Atlantic suggested.

But for boys, early learning is all about visuals. Boys have a faster growing cerebral cortex than girls, which allows them to "learn better with movement and pictures rather than just words," WebMD reported

This is why boys are more likely to grasp visual concepts on the chalkboard because those ideas imply action and movement, according to the Association for Supervision and Curriculum Development (ASCD).

A boy's brain goes through a refreshing period, too. Boys are more often to fall asleep in class or take a break by sitting in the back of the room, since they'll eventually come back to learning with renewed energy to learn, according to the ASCD.

So while brain development may be different for boys and girls, they ultimately end up learning the same way. In fact, researchers suggest boys and girls partake in similar activities to learn, like kicking a soccer ball while being taught lessons, so it'll keep them focused and improve multitasking. Researchers also said parent should use more graphics and pictures to help their kids stay more organized and learn new concepts, according to the ASCD.

Parents can also point out the everyday use of math and sciences, since then they can think through how to apply these educational subjects in real life.

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5 big ways children change the lives of married couples https://www.familytoday.com/relationships/5-big-ways-children-change-the-lives-of-married-couples/ Tue, 22 Nov 2016 14:25:04 +0000 http://www.famifi.com/oc/5-big-ways-children-change-the-lives-of-married-couples/ Think having children is all doom and gloom? Think again. Having children can actually help your marriage.

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Tying the knot and getting hitched is one thing. Having children once you're married is another.

Some stories have been written in the past about how children may be making people less happy (they increase stress, destroy schedules and change your lifestyle, reports say). In fact, The Los Angeles Times reported that Americans are having less kids because they fear their marriages will crumble under all the stress.

But that's not the whole story. According to the U.S. Census, there are more than 115 million families in the United States. And those parents couldn't be happier. A report from LiveScience found parents are typically happier than nonparents because they find happiness in seeing their kids grow up and succeed in daily activities and school, among other reasons.

Here are five ways having a baby can bring positivity to a parent's life.

Children will freshen up your marriage

Having children will certainly change a marriage, but that change isn't always bad. According to Focus on the Family, having children will challenge parents to make decisions about their children, which will require critical thinking and compromise between two spouses.

Bringing children into the home will cause a little more stress, but married couples will find more purpose and drive, Focus on the Family's Steve and Candice Watters explained. Whatever was stale before will become vibrant and colorful.

"What couples don't hear enough ... is that letting their love spill over into a new life can give them a fresh sense of purpose in their marriage," the Watters wrote for Focus on the Family. "Parenting requires couples to adjust expectations about their sex life, their sleep patterns and their ability to embark on last-minute dates, but the parenting mission can mature and sweeten a marriage over the years when a couple commits to do it 'as unto the Lord.'"

When dads bond with children, the marriage is strong

We've heard before that a successful marriage is dependent on how happy the woman in the marriage is. That's something dads can help with by bonding more with the children and taking on some responsibility.

According to Health Day, women in marriages want their fathers to be more involved in raising their children, and part of that includes bonding with them and instructing them about household chores. And when children do those chores, it makes for a happier wife.

And as mentioned earlier, a happy wife is a happy marriage.

Children make us better

Children unite parents, both of who are looking to raise children the right way. By uniting, it's making married couples into stronger people and helping them grow, according to Psychology Today.

"Rather than resigning yourself to the dissatisfaction predicted in the longitudinal studies, you could, like some I've people seen over the years, decide to embrace children as an opportunity for self-growth," Psychology Today reported. "You could use building a family as a chance to feel closer."

You'll be more productive

According to a study from the Federal Reserve Bank of St. Louis, parents who have two or more kids are more productive at work. The study looked at the lives of 10,000 parents and how their productivity increased when they had more than just one child.

The study said parents often slow down when they have one child in order to raise them best. But as they have more children, they tend to be more productive since their previous older children can help them raise their newborns.

"It's all about timing," Christian Zimmermann, one of the study's authors, said to TODAY.com. "It's really when the children are younger that there is an impact, but if you consider the whole career of the person, then on average, the person [who has two or more children] is doing better."

You'll help fight child homelessness

America is at an all-time high for child homelessness. But parents can help solve that problem.

According to a study the National Center on Family Homelessness, single parenthood is one of the drivers of child homelessness in the country, mostly because it's hard for a single parent to afford a home and raise kids. But married couples tend to make more money and be more productive, which cuts down on the amount of homeless children in the country.

"Why would marriage have such an effect on child poverty?" asked Leslie Ford of The Daily Signal. "Because two parents working together generally can support a family better than one parent working alone. Marriage keeps parents, particularly fathers, and their resources connected to their children. Also, married households bring in significantly more money not only because there are two parents, but because married men tend to earn more and work more."

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Does God want you to give tithes? https://www.familytoday.com/self-care/does-god-want-you-to-give-tithes/ Tue, 22 Nov 2016 14:23:28 +0000 http://www.famifi.com/oc/does-god-want-you-to-give-tithes/ Tithing has its rewards, but how much should you give? Should you give at all?

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Tithing has its rewards, but how much should you give? Should you give it all?

Did you hear about this church in Grapevine, Texas?

The church launched a 90-day challenge to its members, looking for them to bring their tithing to the church. But there's a catch.

If God doesn't fulfill his blessing, you get your money back.

Hashtag high reward.

This is actually a common practice by churches. The Fellowship Church launches these challenges every year, and churches in California and South Carolina have also been known to have a similar approach to try and get more people to start tithing.

Tithing actually presents a lot of benefits, according to the 2013 State of the Plate research project. The five-year study, which looked at about 4,000 people who donate 10 percent or more of their income each year to their religious institution or charities, found some top results for tithe-payers.

The study found that about 10 million people in the United States are tithe-payers who give more than $50 billion to "religious and charitable causes," according to Christianity Today. But there's something more noteworthy for tithe-payers - they're better at managing money.

"Tithers carry much less debt than most people and are financially better off than Christian non-tithers," Christianity Today reported. "Eighty percent of 'tithers' have no unpaid credit card bills; 74 percent have no car payments; 48 percent own their home; and 28% are completely debt-free."

And they're giving more than 10 percent, according to the study. In fact, 77 percent give between 11 and 20 percent.

But how much you should give when tithing has been a rising debate among churchgoers. As Rachel Phan of The Huffington Post notes, some people were sacrificing much of their pay to help out their church and finding nothing but debt.

"I didn't have a job, I was diagnosed as disabled and I was living on unemployment," Wes Prang, a Christian, told HuffPost. "I had a monthly income of $339 a month, but I was tithing and I continued to tithe when my rent went up but my (check) did not."

But as Meagan Gillmore - "a self-proclaimed Jesus-following Baptist" - said to HuffPost, "You need to be generous because God has given you something that doesn't just belong to you. You need to tithe."

Whether to tithe - and how much - connects back to the Old and New Testaments. Phan, for instance, noted that tithing is an "Old Testament concept." The Grace Communion International Organization looked into the difference between the Old and New Testaments when it came to tipping and offering tithes. As the GCIO put it, it's about putting your money "where your heart is."

You may remember back in February when an Applebee's waitress didn't get a tip on her receipt. Rather, she read a statement written from her customer, who wrote, "I give God 10 percent. Why do you get 18?"

That was a reference to tithing. But did the customer take the wrong approach?

"Are we putting our money where our heart is? We can tell where our heart is by seeing where we are putting our money," the GCI explained.

" 'Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also,' Jesus said."

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11 tips for when your spouse is obsessed with watching the big game https://www.familytoday.com/relationships/11-tips-for-when-your-spouse-is-obsessed-with-watching-the-big-game/ Tue, 22 Nov 2016 14:21:28 +0000 http://www.famifi.com/oc/11-tips-for-when-your-spouse-is-obsessed-with-watching-the-big-game/ Is your spouse really into watching the baseball playoffs right now? Try out some of these different methods to offer…

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It's that time for sports to dominate the American television landscape again.

The NFL's season is in full swing. The NBA and NHL are gearing up. Major League Soccer is heading towards its playoff stretch, too. Bowl season for NCAA football isn't too far off either.

So, quite frankly, there are a lot of sports going on now. Americans are supporting their sports teams. But are there spouses supporting their loved ones in supporting a team? After all, a supportive spouse creates a happier marriage. According to Psychology Today, a spouse who supports the one they love by showing interest in their spouse's hobbies and interests can actually build a better marriage.

But getting that kind of support falls on both spouses. Psychology Today reported that when people want to get support from their spouses, they need to ask for it.

"No matter what the situation, dialog is key," Psychology Today reported. "Couples will be happier if they learn how to say, 'This is how I'm feeling, and this is how you can help me.' "

With so many people tuned into athletic competitions, it's very possible your spouse may be caught watching a lot of nail-biting sports events this fall. So what should you do when they want to watch the big game? Here are 11 tips to help the non-sports fan support their spouse in watching sports.

You can host a watch party

Tell your spouse you want to host a watch party, where you can both invite friends to make it more of a social gathering.

Watch the game with your spouse and ask question periodically through the game

You may not have interest in the sport, but this shows you're supporting them with their interests.

Make watching the game a memorable experience

Instead of just sitting on the couch and watching the ball be thrown, decorate the room with some streamers and plan out different snacks for you and your spouse to have during the game.

Make a compromise with your spouse

If they're going to watch the game, they have to watch something with you at halftime. Or if they're going to watch the entire game, you could always say they have to watch something with you at another time.

Do you research beforehand and find interest in the game before it hits the screen

Your spouse may appreciate that extra effort in you knowing what's going to happen on the field.

Watch the kids or tend to the family

Maybe your spouse wants to watch the game on his or her own in solitude. By caring for the kids, you're giving them the piece of mind they're looking for.

Buy tickets to the game and make it a date

When your spouse starts talking about the big game coming up, one thing you could do is buy tickets to the event and make it a nice date night.

Show interest in another way

Your spouse knows you have no interest in watching sports, so they probably expect you to do your own thing. But if you buy them a jersey of their favorite team, or print out the stats and necessary information for the game beforehand, you're showing you have interest for them without actually watching the game.

Make fun of the sports together

There's comedy in all sports, and this could be a way for you and your spouse to bond over the game without watching it. Talk about the most disastrous first pitches from throughout history, or some other silly events that have happened in the past.

Ask questions from a distance

You could ask questions during the game, but even if you're really uninterested in sports, you can still feign interest by questioning the score and going-ons from afar. Every so often ask what the score is, who's doing well and what team will likely win.

If you don't want to watch, at least be honest

Just because your spouse is watching the big game, doesn't mean you have to be involved. Sure, support is beneficial for marriages. But as About Relationships pointed out, being supportive is also about being honest and realistic. So if you don't want to watch the game, you're fine not to. Just make sure your spouse understands and you're clear about it.

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You're faced with a choice - swipe left or swipe right. That's the premise of Tinder, the online dating app that's been sweeping the nation in recent years.

Among the 40 million people who engage in online dating, 13 million are using Tinder overall with 10 million using it on a daily basis, research suggests. The app has made more than 1 billion matches, exceeding its previous goals of 1 million and 500 million, according to Tech Crunch.

So with all of these users on Tinder - 53 percent being aged 18 to 24, the largest of any demographic - different strategies have been created to meet the right people.

Here's a look at eight successful strategies, some ridiculous and some calculated, that people have used on Tinder since its inception:

The power swipe

Swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe.

This strategy is as simple as swiping right on every single person that comes your way, giving yourself high odds of finding someone who will swipe right for you, too. The Daily Dot highlighted this strategy in a recent piece, looking into why it is so popular among males.

"It seems like it has less to do with not being 'picky,' and more to do with the recognition that there are more men than women on most dating apps; so if you're male, swiping right indiscriminately increases the chance of getting matches," wrote EJ Dickson for The Daily Dot. "That's not so much a reflection of the inherent difference between men and women's attitudes toward online dating, as it is a simple numbers game."

The cupcake

This guy has got one sweet strategy. To appeal to the swipers with a sweet tooth, a Colorado man, Lee Breslouer, made his main picture a cupcake, and the results were pretty positive, The Elite Daily reported.

"Breslouer started to get more and more traction on Tinder," The Elite Daily reported. "Granted, the messages were sometimes creepy ... but others were clearly amused by his humorous take on dating and his unique approach."

The thoughtful approach

Want to get serious with someone? Take the thoughtful approach by reading through all of someone's information, checking out their photos, and making sure they're really a right fit for you.

The coach

You don't always have to go it alone. Tinder coaches are available. TinderUs is a service that helps you get matches and find some success with swiping. It costs $50, and it is in the BETA phase, so be cautious with this one.

The confidence booster

So you're swiping along and your friend pops up. Do you give them the left - because you're just friends - or go right, since you're trying to give them the confidence boost? You may want to swipe right on this one, since your friend may give you the confidence booster, too.

But be careful with the friend swipe. As Tinderella of Gizmodo notes, you don't want to give off the wrong impression.

"It's similar fare for friends outside of the office," Tinderella wrote. "If you happen upon them on Tinder, you have to be the bigger person and think of the implications on the broader friend circle before you swipe."

The traveler

Caught in Chicago and your flight is delayed? Tinder could help you get a quick date for the night, and help you expand your horizons, pushing you into a deep pool of people.

"For me, it fills a number of functions," wrote Siena for Yahoo! Travel. "First, there's curiosity: I know how the New York dating pool looks, but what if I lived in L.A.? Or Athens? Or Nicaragua or Brazzaville?"

The mysterious play

Want a connection that goes beyond the physical? Try withholding photos from your profile. This strategy will definitely alert you early to the people only looking for fun, so that's a positive if you're interested in getting serious. But beware that some users may not view your account because they'll think you are fake or inactive.

The tiger

Yes, this is actually a thing.

Men have been posing for their Tinder pictures with tigers, starting up a sub-culture of Tinder users called "Tinder Guys with Tigers." While this has gained popularity in recent months, legislation may be sending it into extinction, according to RYOT.

Happy swiping!

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