Love should not be one-sided. Love should be an exchange of loyalty, sincerity and charity. If you seem to be the only one giving these qualities to your relationship, take some time to consider who you are with. Though it can be difficult to see warning signs when you are head of heels in love, the cost of not doing so is devastating.

When you are dating, try to separate your head from your heart. In this 'honeymoon' stage of the relationship, we tend to think that everything our love does is exciting and romantic. But this part of the courtship period should be used to analyze similarities and differences between you. Try to see your relationship at face value, without all the romance. Dating needs to be a time to share experiences and maybe get a glimpse at what your future would be like together. If you are paying attention to more than the butterflies in your stomach, you might see that you aren't getting his full attention or devotion. Now is the time to see if this relationship would be worth it or not.

Pay attention and see if you see these five things in your relationship:

1. You don't share goals

Even though both of you have independent lives and personalities, there should be some goals you share as a couple. If the someone in your life isn't sharing his achievements, applauding yours, looking to participate in any sort of goal you and him can reach together be warned; he's not that interested.

2. You are your own support system

If he really loves you, he will be there with you as you make decisions about your future. He should be someone who is your partner through joy and pain, seeking to find ways to help and support you. Love is all about give and take. Be sure that the person you are with is giving, not just taking.

3. Things are too independent

There needs to be a balance in all things, especially in a relationship. While you need to spend time doing your own thing, if your partner is constantly choosing other activities over you, please reconsider. Television, sports, and video games are fine hobbies to have, but they shouldn't be where he spends all of his time.

4. You both are on different wavelengths

Having your own thoughts and opinions are a part of being your own person, but there should be some shared qualities between you and your partner. If the two of you are pulling in different directions, that will cause conflict and disagreement in your relationship. While some disagreement can be good in a relationship, if he is unwilling to compromise in what he thinks is right, that will spell trouble for later on.

5. There are affection and intimacy issues

Even if your partner is very affectionate, make sure he respects you. If your relationship is purely based on physical attraction, then he's not really into getting to know you and having a relationship. If there is a lack of respect in your relationship, move on. You deserve someone who respects you and wants you by his side.

Seeing these attitudes in your man should signal you to take a minute to reconsider your relationship. It is not worth fighting for love that isn't there. One day, he might realize how he feels about you, but he may not. It would be worth it to wait for love that is honest and sincere, instead of trying to be with someone who isn't into you.

_This article is a translation and adaptation of the original article, "5 atitudes que mostram que um homem não quer nada com você".

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When we talk about spicing up your marriage, normally we associate this with physical contact, but you need to remember that your marriage has many more things than just that. Things like: love, respect, caring and companionship. Physical contact obviously contributes to this, but it isn't the only way to spice up your marriage.

Imagine your marriage as a chocolate cake (or your favorite cake). Always start from scratch putting in the ingredients one by one until you can mix it all together to make good batter, in other words, a solid marriage.

With time you don't need to follow the recipe because you have it memorized, in other words, with time the experiences and the knowledge you have of one another lets you know better how to lead life as a couple.

Here are some ingredients to spice up your relationship.

Always have a romantic back-up

You don't always need to be romantic, but breaking the routine can be a good thing, like having a dinner for just the two of you.

Don't be someone you're not, maintain your personality

Often couples have different ideas and thoughts, keeping this in mind, respect and understanding has a special place for both of you. You both have your own personality.

Give each other gifts

Normally we give gifts on special days, but, do this on days that aren't special too. This demonstrates how much you like each other, beyond the good surprise.

Have a good sense of humor

Nobody likes to live with someone who has bad humor. You don't need to be smiling all the time, but you do need to face the difficulties of life with hope and happiness. This makes your burden lighter.

Love and be loved

This is a key ingredient, this is the pepper that spices up your marriage. Not only that, it solidifies your marriage.

You need to know and feel how special you are to each other, and when you mix all these ingredients together you will have the results of your marriage. If you practice every day and apply these ingredients in your marriage, you will have success. This is a perfect example of what everyone wants; to make your marriage a perfect marriage.

"Love"� it is difficult for the undecided. It is frightening to the fearful. Overwhelming for lovers. But the winners are strong in love."� - Cecilia Meireles

A happy couple in their home is the perfect example of happiness. Once you put into practice these special ingredients, you can then add a delicious sauce to your relationship which is physical contact. It is through this sauce that you can complete your relationship by having children, or for those that cannot have children, it is a sure love that helps make your marriage stronger.

""� only those who love know that love has its steps and that nothing in life happens by chance."� - Marcus Salles

Translated and adapted by Taylor Richardson from the original article, "Como apimentar seu casamento"� by Jacira Silva Dos Santos.

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When it comes to living together, times of happiness and relaxation are always present, but we also have to remember that fights are inevitable, too. They are inevitable as we have differences in our personalities and opinions and when we can't come to a solution to our problems.

"There are three things in life that don't come back; an arrow, a spoken word and a lost opportunity."� (Chinese Proverb)

But, even with all our differences, it is necessary to find a balance in it all so that the fights do not become a routine in marriage.

"�Love is a desert and your fears"� (Djavan)

We are not capable of predicting when a fight will happen, but in the midst of the desert and fears, we need to have love as our beacon.

In spite of the darkness that fighting gives us, bring light into your relationship with your beacon of love. Love isn't just a romantic idea that comes from movies, but it is the true motive that brings together the union of a couple. When you recognize the similarities and differences that you have you need to choose to not let those things bring contention into the relationship.

Every time we have a disagreement we must take a closer look at our own life. This is a wonderful exercise that helps us evaluate what is really important, and when the fights become important we need to prioritize what we put into our lives.

Follow these ideas to avoid fighting with your spouse

1. Avoid arguments

In order to avoid fights, we need to act with discernment. When one person begins to argue, it's better to not say words that could hurt their feelings or make them angry. Do your best to not use words that discourage them. Don't use physical force. Doing these things can cause the argument to get even worse.

2. Take a walk

When the fighting and arguing begins, take a walk in order to calm down. Think about what caused you to start the argument with your spouse and try to find a way that you can have a happy marriage.

3. Understand when it is the right time to talk

Sometimes it is better to listen than to talk. Talking out of turn can lead to an argument. We want to avoid this so, sometimes it is better to be quiet. Wait for your spouse to calm down a little, and then you can talk about the subject.

"Examine your own heart and fearlessly access the priorities of your life."� (Melvin Russell Ballard)

Fights don't benefit anyone. They only bring us hurt, resentment, suffering and pain. Whatever the reason for the argument, it isn't worth the tears or the look of sadness on your spouse's face.

The heart is the engine that moves the body, and your feelings. If there is only hurt and pain in them, you will not have the strength to fight the battles of life. But if you have noble and pure feelings, then you will be able to move the mountains that stand in your way, and you will be able to clear the path of problems that you will inevitably walk.

Translated and adapted by Taylor Richardson from the original article "Como evitar brigas no casamento"� by Jacira Silva Dos Santos.

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When we are trying to seduce someone, we use many ways to draw attention to ourselves, especially women. She wears her best clothes, uses her favorite perfume, offers a dazzling smile, asks her friends what she should do to get "that guy" to like her, and she often daydreams of that guy whom she believes could be her "prince charming."

From the moment that we make our dreams become reality, dating consists of smiles, hugs, kissing, long walks, talking, taking pictures together and so on. Basically, it is the time where we get to know each other. When we turn from wondering to truly knowing that this is the man we want to marry, we move on to another part of dating, where we make plans up until the wedding.

When we are married, our daily routine becomes an enemy in our lives. If it isn't nurtured properly, it will bring monotony into our lives. But wait, how do you seduce your spouse daily?

1. The daily smile, the everlasting receiving smile. When he comes home, smile at him and ask him about his day.
2. Always try to kiss him daily, kiss him passionately or "make-out" and make it an important part of your marriage.
3. Send loving text messages, emails, and so on. "I love you very much" "Have a great day." Let your heart guide you on what to say.
4. Try to always have meals together. Make this something that is sacred in your life.
5. Don't limit makeup or using perfume for certain days, like when you go out, or when you go to parties. Do this for him on any day, even if you are going to stay at home and just watch a movie together.
6. Walking around holding hands, hugging, and always maintaining physical contact is essential to all of this.
7. One thing that you cannot forget to do, or to keep off your list of "things to do to seduce your husband" is know how to (and doing it) make his favorite meal. Even if you don't really know how to cook, these are times where it is OK to ask for guidance from a friend or family member.

To maintain this love, this seduction, it is required to make sacrifices and to actually try. But the woman is not solely responsible for this, the man is also responsible. Yet you, as the woman, can show him the way. I mean, who doesn't like to be loved, pampered and taken care of?

Seduce or conquer requires action

The word "conquer" in the English language, is classified as a verb. Every verb is an action word. Therefore it is important to act on this and practice this as a part of your everyday life, especially in your marriage.

"A relationship is a seed to a garden; it needs to be taken care of daily." - Renato Cardoso and Cristiane Cardoso - Casamento Blindado.

Seduction is nothing more than demonstrating your love and devotion to your partner. It's very important that the both of you feel this with every gesture.

"Days that are the exact same are like a river that runs backwards, it doesn't go anywhere." - Sandy - Dias Iguais

Prioritize your marriage and your relationship

According to the years you have been married, when your children and grandchildren come, we tend to not prioritize each other as we did in the beginning. Still, as partners, we need to remember that our grandchildren and children will one day raise families of their own. Then we will only have each other to support and care for.

Seduction isn't only for young couples that are just starting their married lives. It is for everyone from the moment that you decide to be married together. It will help remind you of the beginning of your marriage. It will come as a daily fight, but with the years it will bring joy and happiness, and every hard moment that you go through together is worth the experience as you will learn to deal with these everyday trials.

Use your power as a woman, wife and mother, as they will use their special charm for you and you will be a happy couple.

Translated and adapted by Taylor Richardson from the original article, "Como seduzir seu marido todos os dias" by Jacira Silva Dos Santos.

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