All relationships go through ups and downs on more than one occasion. In a worst-case scenario, this leads to estrangement and even breakups. But all of that could be avoided if we took the time to analyze the situation and find an alternative solution, rather than blowing it out of proportion and giving up on the relationship.

Although some say that there is no recovering when love disappears, I am one of the many people who believe that, while there are ashes, there is always time to rekindle the love.

With a little effort, you too can detect when your relationship is becoming heated and develop a strategy to return to the tropical paradise of loving and being loved by him. So do not be discouraged and read these eight signs to help you see when the love in your relationship needs a boost:

1. They stop reaching for your hand

One day you wake up, leave your home with your significant other and you notice something you never thought you would see. You have no contact with each other but are walking side by side. You no longer hold hands as you cross the street like you once did.

2. There is no goodbye

When you're in love, you often take the time to call him just to know how he is or to tell him you miss him. He sends you romantic text messages, a letter with a heart inside or a picnic basket with a surprise lunch date. But when love diminishes, these gestures stay in the past.

3. Passionate kisses are a thing of the past

This is one of the most obvious symptoms. When passionate kisses have turned into a kiss on the cheek or forehead, the heat he once had for you has diminished. You are no longer looking to break the Guinness Book of World Records for the longest kiss.

4. You are no longer a priority

It does not have to be anything elaborate, but when love is present, there is a constant desire to impress, be romantic and spend time together. Even if you are super busy, a man in love will try and plan a date for you any day he can. When he stops making plans with you, and keeps you out of his schedule, then he may need to be reminded of his love for you.

5. The word frustration is your new best friend

You spend a lot of time with your best friend, and once you are married, your spouse quickly takes on the role of best friend. If you are now constantly angry and annoyed at what he is doing, then frustration is probably creeping into the best friend slot. When you are constantly arguing, there is no doubt that the flame of your love is dwindling.

6. The look is harder to see

No words are needed; just a look and you know what your spouse is thinking. If you do not recognize the way he looks at you anymore, your love may be in trouble. When love is in crisis, not only does the frequency of these special looks decrease, but your ability to understand their body language and what they are really feeling diminishes as well.

7. Your bed has become a cold place

If you are happy together, you know what each side of the bed feels like. The physical demonstrations of love are cooled down immensely when contention has taken over the bedroom.

8. The time together is a martyrdom

When you do not enjoy the time you spend together and notice yourself wishing you were with someone else, the joy in your relationship has officially been lost. The love you used to have for your spouse has literally ended and it is time to move on.

How many of these signs can you see in your relationship? Do not worry. If you detect it soon enough and take the time to rekindle the flame of love, you can still have yourself a long-lasting marriage.

This article has been adapted and translated from the original,"8 señales de que la llama del amor se está apagando" which was published on Familias.com.

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Are all liars unfaithful? No. Are all cheaters liars? Yes. An unfaithful person searches for excuses that allow and justify his or her behavior toward their partner; but a cheater is mainly seeking to deceive him or herself.

Many seek to fill a void that has been generated for various reasons. They use various lies so that their behavior is not criticized; but none of those lies convinces completely. Here are some lies that you can recognize:

1. Viewing pornography is not infidelity

Sometimes this response is based on the argument that you do not know the other person in real life; but the truth is that, for the spouse of someone viewing pornography, the same hurt feelings can arise that would if it were infidelity with someone in "real" life.

2. Men are more likely to have sex with several women

Marriage is a commitment between two people who love each other; so that respect should be mutual. Involving a third person shows a lack of respect for the spouse, for marriage and for oneself. This non-exclusive behavior is common in men, but it also occurs in women frequently.

3. Out of sight, out of mind

What she doesn't know won't hurt her. As an old saying goes, "It is easier to catch a thief than to catch a liar." When she discovers the lie it may be too late to salvage the marriage. Although she may not see or know what you do, the damage still occurs in the relationship.

4. Once doesn't count

Many cheaters tell themselves the lie of, "If this happened only once, then it is not necessary to share it with my spouse." No matter how many times, it is still infidelity.

5. It's YOUR Fault

Many times, a cheater will blame his or her partner for their own inappropriate behavior. But in order for a relationship to truly be repaired, blaming cannot occur. A spouse who has been unfaithful must be willing to ask for sincere forgiveness, and the other must be willing to give it.

Infidelity does not necessarily mean lack of love, so it is sometimes possible to work through it. While everyone can't forgive at the same speed, when working as a team to achieve a healthier and more honest relationship, it becomes much easier. Make no mistake — any kind of deception hurts you and the people around you. Before you act, think.

This article is a translation from the original article "Infidelidad: Las mentiras más comunes" on Familias.com.

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All relationships go through ups and downs which can lead to estrangement and even breakups. But this could be avoided if we realized our relationship was going south with enough time to evaluate the situation and find alternatives.

I believe that if you see the signs, you can prevent a disaster. With a little effort, you can detect the signs that your relationship is cooling, and, instead, return to the tropical paradise of loving and being loved. So don't get discouraged, read the signs that your love is dwindling and start your romance recovery mode.

1. You stop holding hands

One day you'll notice that when you're walking together there's no contact. You no longer hold hands as you walk down the street.

2. Farewell to spontaneity

When you're in love, you call your loved one often just to know how he is, or send her a message with a kiss or a heart. But when love diminishes, these gestures are over.

3. Passionate kisses are gone

This is one of the most obvious symptoms. Instead of passionate kissing, you resort to a brush on the lips or cheek. You're definitely not looking to break the Guinness World Record longest kiss anymore.

4. You avoid spending time together

When you're in love, a trip to the store to buy bread together becomes romantic. Pay attention to when you stop having a good time together.

5. The word "discussion" is your new best friend

The enemy of love is the "discussion;" it seeks to destroy at all costs and its techniques are lethal. If you are unable to spend a day without arguing, then there is no doubt that the flame of your love is dwindling.

6. No more knowing glances

A knowing glance is when words are needed but with just a look, you know what your spouse is thinking. If love is in crisis, the frequency of these looks not only decreases, but you also stop understanding what their looks mean.

7. Icy sheets

Each of you have begun to slide to his or her side of the bed. Loving actions increasingly cool as you start leaving a gap in the middle of the bed.

8. Time together is a martyrdom

When we don't like doing something, everything about it seems wrong. In the same way, when we stop wanting our partner, it becomes impossible to enjoy time together.

How many of these signs do have in your relationship? Any of these are a sign that something bad is happening in your relationship. But don't worry. If you detect them now you have time to rekindle the flame of love.

This article has been translated and adapted from the original article: 8 señales de que la llama del amor se está apagando.

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I could not take my eyes off the guy who had just danced with me. I did not know his name until almost two years later, when I saw him again; Cristian. Before we met again, I search and searched, hoping that fate would let us cross paths. Luckily, we did meet again and are now married. It's now been over 10 years since I met the man who would become the love of my life. This same man has shared great moments with me. He has been by my side through difficult challenges. It's been 10 years of joy, tears and celebrations.

After 10 years, I've realized that there are 10 things I wouldn't change about my husband. These are things that I looked for in a husband when I was dating and am glad I have in my marriage. Though it hasn't always been easy, these 10 characteristics have made it worthwhile:

He loves

Marriage should always be based on love between two people. It is essential that a husband loves his wife above anything else, and that she does the same. To love your spouse every day, no matter how exhausted you are, shows your spouse and your family how much you value your marriage. Love should be consistently shown through words and actions.

He's a romantic

This can mean a few things, but marrying someone with a flair for romance will make it harder to get stuck in a routine. Marriage can lose the spark, but not if a romantic gesture or love note is there to brighten your day. A husband who will surprise you with a letter, a flower or even a long kiss in the morning is going to keep you happy.

He learns from change

We all know the saying "All change is for the better," but humans seem to be creatures of habit. If your man knows that change gives him the opportunity to be better, snatch him up quick. Life won't go just as planned, so marry someone who is willing to be flexible and adaptable.

For him, housework is a two-person task

Wouldn't it be lovely to marry someone who split up responsibilities? No one wants to be the only one who does the washing, ironing, cleaning, cooking and organizing. Having a partner that will share these responsibilities will build your marriage into a happy one.

He forgives (and forgets)

To err is human, but to forgive is divine. Forgiveness makes us better people, and forgetting the mistake means we aren't dwelling on the past. Everyone makes mistakes, but the fact that someone is willing to recognize a mistake and apologize is going to avoid a lot of heartache. Of course, this is a two-way street - you will need to do the same.

He lets you in on what he's thinking

Marriage is between two people, so naturally there are going to be some differences. Communication is going to be key in any relationship, so find a husband that is going to be open about what he's feeling and thinking. Decisions in marriage should be mutual, but that can't happen if secrets are being kept.

He's a teacher

You don't literally need to marry a teacher, but marry someone who does teach. If you choose to have children together, won't you want your kids to be taught appropriate values? Teach your children to be moral, honest and responsible. Your husband can help you influence and teach your children. Marry someone whose legacy is worth teaching to the next generation.

He cooks

OK, so this isn't a requirement, but marrying someone who helps you in the kitchen can be both helpful and fun.

He shares your interests

Obviously your husband is going to have his own goals and hobbies, as do you, but marrying someone who is willing to try things you are interested in will add a whole new level of commitment.

He gives you butterflies

Don't underestimate how you feel around your man. Hold onto someone who you want to kiss and hug, and who makes you feel good. That love and affection will be present all through your marriage.

He deserves you

This may be the most important quality. Marry someone who loves you, who deserves you and who wants to be with you. Don't settle for someone who is going to put his needs above yours. Marriage is wonderful, but it can also be difficult. Be with someone who wants to be with you through the good and the bad.

This article is an adaptation and translation of the original article, "Lo que a toda mujer le gustaría que hiciera su esposo". It has been republished here with permission.

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Ever since I was little, I was never good at being friends with the girls my age; I've always been friends with the boys. This was the case even when I grew up. In college and even through my career after school, I was friends with men rather than women.

When I married, my husband was aware of my friend situation and wasn't bothered at first. However, his opinion changed, and it became something we talked about quite often. While I don't think that it's wrong to have certain friends of the opposite sex when you are married as long as these things are being done to protect your marriage. Here are the essential rules I now follow:

Trust is crucial

The four foundations of a relationship are: love, trust, respect and communication. If any of them weaken, everything your marriage stands for starts to crumble. These four foundations are so connected that betraying one causes issues in all the other categories. That being said, your husband deserves to know the exact nature of your friendships. He should be friends with the people you are friends with. Your behavior with your friends is the same when your husband is there and when he isn't. Involving him in your friendships will let him know you trust him and that there isn't anything to hide. If your husband begins to feel insecure or jealous, cut off the friendship. A friendship isn't worth your marriage.

Respect can't be pushed aside

Here, respect means many things. It is respect for yourself, toward your partner, your friend and toward your marriage. When there is respect for all the different relationships in your life, there isn't worry that a friendship will lead to something else. Knowing your friend respects your marriage is just as important as you having respect for your husband. If this level of respect is missing in any category, discontinue the friendship.

Talk with your husband

Good communication needs to be part of any marriage, whether you have friends of the opposite sex or not. But you must maintain solid conversation with your husband if you hope to keep your marriage and keep your friends. Good communication is based on understanding, listening and having a respectful opinion on both sides of the story. Let your husband know that he is the most important aspect of your life, and if he feels threatened by other friends, he can tell you about it.

Truth will save you

It's not unusual to hear comments about a jealous husband who suspects that these friends have an ulterior motive. How will you make your husband realize this is not true? Being open about your friendships will save you. Friendships change over time, but some things remain the same. A true friend supports you in what is right, but not in matters that are wrong. They will care for you, your husband and would never attempt to ruin that relationship you and your husband share.

Keep these friends close, but only the ones that deserve the title.

This is an adaptation and translation of the original article "Una mujer casada puede tener amigos del sexo opuesto?" It has been republished here with permission.

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I have watched many marriages be torn apart because of infidelity. It is heart wrenching to witness beloved friends having to live their worst nightmare as they discover their spouse has been selfish and unfaithful. I would never wish it on anyone. Because of this, I have used these awful experiences to collect advice and tips on how to catch a cheater before it is too late in hopes that it may help someone in the future.

Here are 10 of the most common signs that your spouse is cheating:

1. Frequent change of passwords

If you notice your spouse changing their email, cell phone, computer or social media passwords more than usual, chances are they are trying to hide something.

2. Social media profiles

If a spouse is unfaithful, they will most likely make their social media profiles look very "single." Updating their profile picture to a solo shot or a picture with friends and hiding photos of you as a couple should be a big red flag. Also take notice if there is an obvious increase in the amount of time your spouse spends on social networks each day.

3. Cellphone habits

A healthy relationship is an open one. When your spouse answers the phone and immediately moves to a room where you cannot overhear the conversation, watch out. Unless they are planning a surprise birthday party for you, your spouse should feel comfortable talking to anyone on the phone in front of you.

4. Decreased or increased desire for intimacy

In some cases the desire for sex may decrease since the cheater is already getting their pleasure outside the home. However, there is also the possibility that his or her interest in having sex may increase, because of feelings of guilt.

5. Cleared history

A big sign that someone is being unfaithful is when you find their computer or phone history cleared regularly. Though your spouse might be doing this for security reasons, it is more likely that they are trying to "cover their tracks."

6. Increase in social activities

Take note when your spouse starts attending more social gatherings alone. A guys' night out or a business party are commonly used cover-ups.

7. Increase the extra costs

If it seems you are a little tighter on money at the end of the month than normal, look at where your extra money is going. Cheaters will often take out cash to make it more difficult to track where they have spent the money.

8. Physical appearance

Be careful not to jump to conclusions with this one. Your spouse's newfound desire to be more physically attractive might be a result of trying to look more professional for work, or maybe they are just trying to catch your eye. However, if you have noticed any of the other signs on this list, you may have a problem. When seeking a new relationship or adventure, people usually take extra care in managing their outward appearance.

9. Blame you for everything

No matter if something happened at work or away from home, they find a way to blame you and make you feel lousy.

10. Increase in gifts

Spouses who are being unfaithful will often try to cover their guilt with splurges of gifts. If you are surprised by the sudden amount of attention and gifts your spouse is giving you, you might want find out what the motive behind them is.

If you find four or more of these signs in your life, something strange is happening. It doesn't guarantee that your spouse is caught up in an affair, but they are the beginning steps towards infidelity. Be careful to avoid outright accusing them of being unfaithful. Instead, talk to them and try to understand what is going on. If there is a problem, try your best to work through it with your spouse, forgive their mistakes and save your marriage.

_This article is a translation and adaption of the original article,"12 signos que ningún infiel puede evitar."

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When love is in the air, it shows. Even though we might try to hide how we are feeling, our body gives clear signals that we are in love. I've listed 10 signs that show you a man is in love. If you can see five of these signs, you'll know that he has strong feelings for you ... but if you see all 10, then you can be sure that he loves you!

1. He's always playing "Where's Waldo"

Whether you are walking in a sea of people, or you are the only person on the sidewalk, he's searching for you. You can see his eye scan the crowd of people, or try to see if that really is you walking his way. When you finally make eye contact, his mouth curls into a sweet smile that crinkles his eyes.

2. With you, he's happily unhappy

Even after a tough day where everything seemed to go wrong, seeing you tugs a smile from his tired face. Though having you there doesn't fix troubles at work, he can't be as upset with you by his side. He doesn't put on a false face when he's upset, but he lets you know that you make him happy, even when he's frustrated.

3. He's a really good sport

Being a good sport doesn't mean he has to be athletic; If your man loves you, he wants to share your interests. You don't have to have the same exact hobbies, but he's a good sport about going to yoga class with you. He shows a real interest in the things that you love, and seeks to spend time with you, even if that means an afternoon of "downward dog."

4. You're his priority

It's cute how he gets flustered if you say you might be coming down with a cold, because he wants you to be healthy. Your well-being and happiness come first in his eyes. If he loves you, he'll be aware of what happens in your life, and won't hesitate to help you with whatever you need.

5. To him, you have two good sides

Knowing that you aren't perfect only gives him a reason to love you more. He sees your strengths and thinks the world of you. Even when you are self-conscious about a "flaw," he sees it as a virtue. He'll want to highlight your positives and wants you to see yourself how he see you.

6. He's focused - on you

No matter who's around, his attention is on you. He listens carefully to what you have to say, and looks into your eyes every time you talk.

7. He's a cheerleader

Maybe not literally, but he strives to cheer you on. If you're happy, he's happy. Seeing you smile gives him a reason to smile too. He'll be sure to support and encourage you to achieve your goals, just to see you happy.

8. His eyes don't lie

He may not be saying "I love you," but his eyes don't lie. His eyes light up and even sparkle a little bit when he sees you, and you catch him glancing your way when he thinks you aren't looking.

9. He's no Pinocchio

Even if telling the truth is painful, he respects you too much to lie. You both can have open and honest conversations about important topics because you trust each other.

10. You're on his clock

Part of loving someone is spending time with him or her. Even if he has just a few minutes to spare, he'll give priority to you. He'll find ways to spend time with you and still get things done; going on study dates, grabbing a quick lunch with you on his break, or even running errands with you.

This article is a translation and adaptation of the original article, 10 señales de que un hombre está enamorado. It has been republished here with permission.

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