Yet, one of the oldest and most read of all books in the world has been helping and guiding parents how to be good parents for centuries. That book is the Bible, the purveyor of great truths. You don't have to be a Christian to understand and adopt its teachings.

Here are 17 bible verses from the King James Version that teach you how to parent right:

Deuteronomy 11:19

"And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up."

In essence, good parents teach their children in a lot of different ways. Teaching happens everywhere; so, be prepared to teach. (Also see Deuteronomy 6:7.)

Psalms 34:13-14

"Keep thy tongue from evil, and thy lips from speaking guile./Depart from evil, and do good; seek peace, and pursue it."

Teaching children about good speech and how to speak without antagonizing everyone is an art you should teach.

Psalm 127:3

"Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward."

Children are a blessing and a reward. When we treat them as "heritages" and help them understand who they are, the more we help them.

Proverbs 1:5

"A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels ... "

Listening and learning are two important skills parents can teach their children.

Proverbs 4:1, 5, 13

"Hear, ye children, the instruction of a father, and attend to know understanding ... Get wisdom, get understanding: forget it not; neither decline from the words of my mouth ... Take fast hold of instruction; let her not go: keep her; for she is thy life."

Learning coupled with the application of knowledge reaps wisdom.

Proverbs 13:24

"He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes."

Children need to learn there are consequences to their actions and sometimes need to be chastened. But that doesn't mean that children need to be beaten. Chastening can mean so many things other than corporeal punishment.

Proverbs 22:6

"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it."

Parents need to begin teaching their children from a very early age.

Matthew 5-7

All of the Beatitudes teach children and adults alike how to behave. Simple things like not judging others, being peacemakers and not hating people are just a few of those things we can teach our children so they can see the world in a totally different light.

Matthew 18:10

"Take heed that ye despise not one of these little ones ... "

Teaching children that we must love all little ones, no matter who they are or what color they might be, could eliminate a lot of hateful attitudes in this world. Children ultimately become adults and must be taught early.

Matthew 19:19

"Honour thy father and thy mother: and, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself."

Teaching honor is imperative for a children's toolbox as they grow older. Teaching that we must honor both our father and our mother creates a lasting relationship.

John 13:34

"A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another."

Love is the key to true success. When hate enters the picture, chaos reigns.

Ephesians 4:14

"That we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive ... "

In today's society, it is good for parents to help children learn consistency and persistence so they don't fall prey to the craziness that abounds today.

Ephesians 4:32

"And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another ... "

What if all parents taught and practiced this one with their children? Our world would be more peaceful. Wars would be non-existent.

Ephesians 5:25

"Husbands, love your wives" and the corollary: Wives, love your husbands."

When we show our children how much we love each other, they will learn that love for themselves.

Colossians 3:8-9

"But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth./Lie not one to another."

Anger sucks the life out of families and individuals. Saying things we don't mean creates challenges in families and others. (Also see Ephesians 6:4 and Colossians 3:21.)

Philippines 4:8

"Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."

We should teach our children to pursue truth.

1 Thessalonians 3:10, 13

"For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat./But ye, brethren, be not weary in well doing."

Teaching children how to work effectively would generate generations of hard workers.

From Moses to the Psalmist to Solomon to Jesus Christ to the Apostle Paul, parents and children can learn much from their teachings. While the world whirls around ever-changing parenting philosophies about teaching children, parents can adhere to the age-honored teachings found in the Bible and create long-lasting relationships with their children.

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Do great wives do things differently than regular wives?

Absolutely.

But what makes a great wife probably isn't what you think it is. When a good guy looks for a woman to marry and spend his life with, he doesn't focus on hair color, dress size or how "hot" she is. He looks for specific traits that make up the best companions.

Here are seven specific things great wives do differently.

1. Exude patience

Patience: something most of us don't have but always wish we had more of.

Great wives literally exude patience. For us husbands, we are sincerely grateful when our companions are patient with us, especially when we make dumb mistakes. Without patience in a relationship, frustrations and arguments easily arise.

2. Love unconditionally

Some wives only love their husbands if they do the right things, buy the right presents, take them to the right places and dress the right way.

Great wives look beyond the shortcomings of their husbands and love them no matter what. Dedicated companions constantly create harmony and extend love. Their love abounds in every aspect of their lives.

3. Stay loyal

Great wives don't cheat.

Their eyes and feelings are specifically and forever riveted on their husbands, and they expect their husbands to be the same. They do everything in their power to bind and enhance their marriages. Power and consistency of the relationship is premiere.

4. Forgive often

Face it, husbands, we are knuckleheads and do knucklehead things. We're forgetful. We're careless. We muddy and clutter up the house. We don't listen as well as we should. We don't pay enough attention to our wives. And we do some terribly inconsiderate things.

But great wives shake their heads and love us the way we are. Of course, we need to be better. And great wives won't put up with abusive or unacceptable behavior. But for the minor weaknesses and challenges, great wives get us, help us to become better and love us anyway.

5. Serve selflessly

Great wives serve selflessly, no matter the time, place or situation. They continuously watch out for those they love. They think about their children. They love to talk to their mothers. They are thoughtful to their husbands.

Creating loving environments by serving selflessly and watching out for people makes others feel special, safe and secure.

6. Find independence

Great wives are their own persons.

They know who they are and don't have to have a husband to be identifiable. They possess extraordinary traits and characteristics and shine wherever they go and whatever they do. Independent women are comfortable in their surroundings.

7. Keep balanced

Great wives balance intelligence with emotions. Most people swing way too much one way or the other, causing both frustration and emotional chaos.

When a person can look at any situation, size it up and then utilize a combination of intellect and emotion to solve the issue, balance and stability occur.

To my fellow guys out there, search out women with these characteristics.

To girls and women who want to be great wives, adopt these characteristics.

It's one thing to be a good wife; it's another to be a great wife. Great wives just do things differently.

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All you husbands, listen up! You probably have taken your wife for granted some time in your life. She works hard doing lots of things to make your lives better and happier. Have you complimented her lately? If you are not in the habit of giving your wife compliments, here are 21 compliments your wife is waiting to hear.

1. You're right - I'm wrong

Perhaps, this is the biggest compliment ever. It shows you are really smart because she is usually right about many, many things.

2. You look spectacular in that dress (or outfit)

Be honest here! Women have a way of looking spectacular, no matter what they wear. In fact, they try to look spectacular when they are with you. They probably make you look good.

3. I love your cooking

Some husbands do the cooking, but wives have historically cooked for their husbands. Many of the wives learn how to do it better and better as the marriage matures. Never say, "Oh, I wish you could cook like my mother." Bad. Very bad. Compliment her on her cooking.

4. I love how you've done your hair

Many men are not observant, especially when it comes to hair. This is just a BTW note: women change their hairstyles. Be observant, men!

5. You smell delicious!

Doesn't your wife smell good anytime-whether she is working in the garden, working in the office, making bread, running errands, and even changing the baby's diaper?

6. You are my best friend

This is probably one of those compliments all wives would love to hear. Of course, showing she is your best friend would even be better. Chocolates, anyone?

7. You are always there for me

While this is highly cliché, it still serves as an incredible compliment at the right time.

8. You are amazing!

This compliment can mean so many things like you are the most amazing woman I know. You did amazingly well on your talk at church. You are an amazing mother.

9. You are the smartest person I know

Most of the time, men have married up, and your wife is much smarter than you are. Please let her know often.

10. Thanks for being you!

Wives are naturally themselves. Most of them don't try to put on airs. They are just plain good. Husbands should shower their wives with thanks and gratitude that they are, who they are- elegant, kind, witty, perfectly themselves.

11. You are stunning!

When you really look at your wife, both on the inside and the outside, you can truthfully say, "Wow, you are really stunning." They are truly God's gift to us!

12. You were the prettiest woman tonight at the dance (event, etc.)

This is always a good one because it is most likely true. Then, you need to show her by not gawking at others.

13. That's a fantastic idea!

While some men ignore the ideas from women, don't ignore the ideas from your wife- most of the time their ideas are probably better than yours. Acknowledge that and make the compliment!

14. I'm so glad you're part of my life

Yes. Yes. And doubly yes! If you are smart enough and really pay attention, this is one of those compliments you probably would say every day.

15. You are perfect just the way you are

Often, men try to change their wives into something they are not. Accept them for who they are and love them even more.

16. You make my life so much easier

And they do it over and over again. Just think about everything your wife does for you. What if she were to suddenly disappear for a while? What would your life be like? What things would not be done? Husbands would be in a world of hurt. Compliment often.

17. I love your charitable heart

Women are just kinder than men are. Their hearts are just geared to helping others, especially their husbands. Watch and learn.

18. Thanks for picking up after me

Men are slobs. They throw or drop clothing or plates or anything wherever they land. Wives do not like messes. They want you to pick up after yourself.

19. That was the best date ever!

Isn't every date with our wives the best date ever? Of course, that means you need to date your wife at least once per week, consistently.

20. Love your kisses!

Kissing before marriage was awesome and kissing should never stop after marriage. Be gentle and kiss often. Tell her how much you love her kisses. She will reward you with another kiss- maybe even a couple.

21. Thanks for validating my feelings

Perhaps, the better compliment would be: thanks for not letting everything be about you. Wives somehow know intuitively how to validate our feelings, and they do it so subtlety.

So, when you think you are getting close to understanding how it all works, you will discover once again that you are still in the learning stage. It would help, though, if you remember this one thing: compliment your wife often and honestly. You will be surprised how your marriage will grow and mature.

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Recently, several wives were asked one question: "If you were to receive a text from your husband that would make you swoon, what would it be?" The wives ranged from newlyweds to wives married over forty years. They also came from a diverse background, from the United States to Africa to Brazil. The one commonality was this: "We don't necessarily think texts will swoon us. Instead, we would rather have specific, simple things sent via text."

So, husbands, listen up to a mere 21 texts wives would like to receive.

1. I'm thinking of you

Wives love to be in your thoughts always, especially between 8:00 a.m. and 5:00 p.m. Granted, husbands can be busy, but so can wives. Be thoughtful!

2. How's your day?

While this may seem a trite phrase, it is an important one. Wives really want you to ask about their day and then listen.

3. I love you!

All of the wives mentioned this phrase because saying it will never, ever become old or out-of-date.

4. How are you, gorgeous (or some rendition of gorgeous)?

Women like to be considered gorgeous, even though some of these wives didn't feel like they were.

5. Thank you for a delicious dinner

Often, husbands, we take our wives for granted, not thinking how much time and effort she put into dinner, especially after a long day at work herself or being with the children the entire day.

6. You're the best cook

While some may not be the best cooks in the world, they do like to be acknowledged for all they do.

7. Call me, Babe

(honey, sweetheart, or whatever name you and your wife share)!

This doesn't mean she wants to be called "Babe." Rather, the emphasis was on "call me," meaning pick up the phone and actually dial her number. The wives didn't say they wanted a long conversation only a quick "hello" to touch bases with them.

8. Be safe

Again, wives wanted their husbands to still feel protective of them.

9. Thanks for folding the clothes

The wives also mentioned that husbands could say, "Thank you" for a variety of things. Wives want to be appreciated.

10. Have a good trip

Even if she is driving down to Costco to pick up a few things, wish her well in her trip. This means you are thinking of her, no matter where she is going.

11. Have a good day

Wives want to have a good day. When they hear this, they understand you are involved in her day. Then, when you arrive home, be sure to ask how her day went and listen attentively.

12. You're so beautiful!

Wives are beautiful in so many ways. Be sure to say this phrase often.

13. You're the most beautiful woman in my eyes

The wives gave a collective sigh on this phrase when one of the wives said it in a soft, sexy voice. It makes them feel unique and special.

14. Thank you! You made my day

And to think she just gave you a kiss or a quick hug on the way out the door. Make her day by telling her about the simple things.

15. Missing you!

Wives like to know you are thinking about them.

16. This made me think of you!

Along with the phrase, the wives wanted you to post a picture, attach a song, lines from a poem or whatever made you think of them. Be careful, though.

17. You're the sweetest

The lines from an old nursery rhyme "What are little girls made of... Sugar and spice and all things nice..." have been attributed to the English artist Robert Southey. So, when you say "you're the sweetest," you are really following great thought patterns originated a few centuries ago.

18. Wanna do lunch?

A quick lunch date during the week really resonated with this group of wives. They want to be you.

19. I love your smile.

What this means, husbands, is you are being observant and texting positive notes. Good for you!

20. Be home in ten!

One of the wives, the newlywed said, "I just wish he would tell me when he would be home." Husbands, if you say "be home in ten," be home in ten or fewer.

21. You're so awesome!

Aren't all wives awesome in their own ways? Let them know.

22. You're the best thing to happen to me

When one of the wives mentioned this phrase, all of the other wives literally let out a collected "Ahhhhh." That one was the winner. Say it often and then show it when you see her.

As one wife, married for almost 37 years, quipped, "Do women really swoon nowadays? Swooning when women wore corsets. Now, we want our husbands to just communicate and whisper the simple things to us like 'I love you' and mean it." Ironically, the women in this group stated they would rather not receive a text. They wanted face-to-face communication.

So, husbands if you want your wives to swoon, good luck, be creative, be attentive, be spontaneous, and be honest! If you want your wives to stay connected with you, communicate with them- preferably one-on-one and often. And, if you cannot, text her.

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When people marry, numerous friends and family offer their suggestions of what they should do as a couple. Often, we listen; although, we may not hear what the suggestions are. Before we know it, we are in trouble with something we have done or may have not done, said or not said.

Couples must understand challenges invariably creep into almost all marriages, but the best thing is knowing how to avoid those challenges.

Here are 51 tips to help you:

1. Go on weekly dates. No negotiation on this one, even if you just walk around the block together. You can trade babysitting, do something free, or even have a date in your room or after kids are in bed.

2. Serve your spouse every day. Service is a key to becoming selfless.

3. Compliment your spouse often, and it doesn't always have to be the big things.

4. Be united in front of your children, even if you don't agree with what your spouse is saying at the time. You can always talk about the situation in another room and then modify what the child was told, but be united.

5. Never speak badly about your spouse to others, especially to your friends or family. Loose lips flapping will cause even greater harm than good.

6. Let them know they are loved. This may mean you say "I love you" aloud every single day-at least a couple of times but more often would be best.

7. Keep your spouse as your best friend. Your spouse was your best friend in the beginning. He or she should stay that way.

8. Ask yourselves when you are fighting about something: "In the eternal perspective of things does this really matter?" Most of the time it doesn't! LET IT GO!

9. Always look for the positive, not the negative, things about your spouse.

10. Be sure you give each other the benefit of the doubt.

11. Maintain a positive attitude. Being negative begets negativity.

12. Forgive quickly, forgive often, and really forget. Conjuring up the past may be injurious to your relationship.

13. Worship together.

14. Learn each other's love language. This might take some homework. But strive for straight A's.

15. Always treat each other with respect and kindness. Love and respect are not automatic; they are earned.

16. Do not flirt with others. Ever!

17. Treat your spouse as the number one person in your life because he or she is-or should be.

18. Never say words that you can't take back.

19. Always communicate openly and honestly. Being honest about life can only enhance it. Never hide secrets.

20. If you're too angry to talk, don't say anything until you both had time to cool off and when you can think more clearly.

21. Be willing to compromise after you have both talked through an issue.

22. Express your love and appreciation to your spouse each and every day even for the small things in life!

23. Never take each other for granted.

24. Work together in the yard or in the house. Sharing tasks will enhance your relationship.

25. Write a handwritten note every day. Bag the text and email.

26. Send a quote each day. How fun would this be? It means you would have to do some homework.

27. Write a thank you note periodically for something he or she has done.

28. Learn to smile often. No one likes a frowny face.

29. Show appreciation by word and deed. The old adage of "show not tell" is still alive and well.

30. Give kisses and hugs before they go to work and after they come home, then sneak in a few along the way too.

31. Remember everyone has a busy life and plan accordingly, always knowing that family is most important.

32. Pay attention to the small details. Noticing a new hair cut or a new table cloth will net you serious points.

33. Listen. Listen. Listen. Enough said.

34. Talk things out. Don't let anger or selfishness get in the way.

35. Learn to be selfless. Selfishness does not fit anyone well.

36. Remember that there is no his and hers money. Once you are together, you are together-body, soul, and money.

37. Be best friends first, and everything else will come along.

38. Be tolerant of weaknesses. We all have weaknesses and are trying to overcome them.

39. Be empathetic. In essence, cut them some slack periodically and then seek to become more empathetic.

40. Take daily walks or exercise together.

41. Look for the good in your spouse. Although this may be difficult periodically, you'll be happy that you did.

42. Remember when you were dating; try to incorporate those flirty actions into your marriage.

43. Create sweetness in your life. Sweetness stays sweet as you continue to add sweetness. Adding rancor and hate will make the relationship bitter.

44. Help with the dishes. (Husbands, this is a must.)

45. Think before you speak. Sometimes things are said without thinking and can never be retrieved.

46. Hold hands often. While hand holding is discreet in many ways, it also creates a bond and connectedness.

47. Read to each other. We know how much we enjoyed being read to as youngsters. Why not as adults?

48. Do things together as much as you can. No brainer here.

49. Be the type of person your spouse can honestly brag about.

50. Be accountable for your own actions. Blaming others for your problems will always lead to challenges.

51. Do things that create trust, and then maintain that trust with consistency.

While more than these 51 tips exist, if you adhere to just these, you will definitely avoid some serious issues during your marriage. (Hint: Read them often.)

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We all have them - friends who use words and/or phrases that annoy us every time we hear them. Yet, people persist in saying them, probably because they've become imbedded in their vocabulary. And, yes, we often catch ourselves using these same words or phrases.

Here are 11 overused words/phrases your friends — and you — absolutely need to stop saying:

"Like"

The word "like" has become a pause for a breath, and many of our friends are breathing more often than they need to, interrupting even the most common sentence. It's probably one of the most annoying words we insert into speech, and shouldn't be used as an interrupter after almost every single word.

"You know"

This one happens to land in sentences such as, "I can't believe it, you know?" or "I'm going "¦ you know "¦ to the store." It's like saying "um" repeatedly during conversation only longer and more disruptive, you know?

Um

Speaking of "um," you know, it's rather annoying, um, to be, um, saddled with this, um, particular mode of, um, speech. This way, um, you don't have to, um, say more than you, um, need, um, to because, um, you can insert um into the conversation and create, um, a stronger string of, um, words. Delete. Delete. Delete — from your vocabulary.

Shut up!

"I'm going to Disneyworld!" Their answer: "Shut up!" Does that mean you don't want me to talk about it anymore or do you say that because you are incredulous that I am really going to Disneyworld? Why not try, "That is so exciting"?

Dude

You may not remember a name, or maybe are too lazy to be respectful, but hopefully you will try harder next time you are in a conversation with someone over 16.

Hashtag

Everyone, I am not Twitter! People get tired of hearing this. Please talk in a normal way without using hashtags. Use your voice to emphasize certain parts of your words. #Thanks!

Freakin'

What's up with this word? It is so close to that other "F" word, but you hear it all the time and so often. What role does it actually play in the scheme of language?

Abbreviations

Not the word "abbreviations," but abbreviations: OMG, Bae, Totes (totally), BFF, BTW, etc. Maybe that's how new languages are created. Think of this new sentence: "OMG, BTW, my BFF is a Totes Bae." What will linguists think of us in about 50 years? Help, word police!

Whatever

This may be the most overused word in our modern vocabulary. Of course, it transitioned from the "so" or "so what" era of a few decades ago. Apparently, each decade or so - i.e. generation - needs its own word to show disinterest or boredom.

Just saying

This phrase is a challenge. Someone will post some phrase on a photo that is clever or makes a bold statement, and then add, "Just saying." It's unnecessary. Just saying.

Seriously/literally

While seriously and literally are seriously good words, they probably ought to be used sparingly and only when seriously needed in a sentence.

And a bonus

Fingers doing "quotation marks"

(With the appropriate bending of the fingers like bunny ears)

While this might not be a phrase, it becomes "annoying." And how many times are you even supposed to bend the fingers to add emphasis?

If you are trying to impress — or simply not bug — your friends, try to eliminate these words or phrases from your vocabulary. And when you tell your friends they need to stop saying these words or phrases, be gentle. Seriously.

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Sometimes, husbands say things to their wives that make their hearts melt. Unfortunately, this doesn't occur often, primarily because husbands are not completely plugged in to the niceties of phraseology.

Grunting and shrugging seem to be the communication de jour. So, to help all husbands and husbands-to-be, here are just seven of the many phrases that came from Facebook posts, mostly women's, that'll make your wife's heart melt.

1. "I've been waiting for a girl like you to come in to my life."

Foreigner wasn't wrong when they penned this phrase and sang it to millions. One female Facebook poster, stated, "This song is one of my favorites because my husband John quotes lines from a song and sings them to me."

So, what that means, husbands, you ought to try out your singing skills and sing to your wife, not just any song, but one that has some meaning like the first song you listened to together.

Remember, you won't be singing to millions. Just one: your wife.

2. "I have chocolate for you."

It is a known fact that women love chocolate. Actually, even men love chocolate, but how often do we men in reality bring chocolate home to our wives?

It may be a simple thing, but chocolate is a comfort food. Even the researchers say there are some health benefits associated with eating the right kind of chocolate. Of course, it doesn't have to be chocolate. It could be a number of things: flowers, a written poem, tickets to the theater, or a quart of her favorite ice cream.

3. "You do not need makeup because you have a beautiful face without it."

This phrase came from a newlywed who used to work at Miles Community College in Montana. She said they were on their way out to eat. She asked her husband whether she should put on makeup before they went to the restaurant. He didn't hesitate when he uttered this phrase, which literally made her heart melt because she was beautiful to him, with or without makeup.

4. "How can I help you?"

This phrase came from a young woman who is a single parent. Her life has been challenging at best, and she always wanted to hear this phrase. She said, "Life is wonderful yet difficult. When things get hectic a helping, loving hand is always appreciated. Love in action melts my heart."

We husbands need to always be asking how we can help. More importantly, we probably should not even have to ask if we are observant enough. If you see dishes in the sink, just do them.

5. "I was wrong. Will you forgive me? What can I do to make things right? "

This phrase is probably one of the most important ones husbands can express. Often, husbands do such stupid things that irritate and aggravate their spouses. And, even more often, we frequently shrug our way through life without saying "I'm sorry" and really meaning it.

6. "You are my sweetheart, and I wish I could take your pain away. "

Husbands probably have caused some, maybe even most, of the pain. The key to this phrase is to be honest and forthcoming and meaning what you say. Then, just do it and begin injecting pure joy into your relationship.

Part of this pure joy hinges on the mere fact that your wife should be your best friend forever, no matter what. Friends talk, do things together, think of each other first. When our wives are also our best friends, if we show how much we really care, there won't be much pain.

7. "I love to see you smile, and you are all mine!"

Wow! Smiles can be such powerful things.

A few years ago, Eric Savitz wrote in a Forbes magazine article that "smiling is an untapped power." It's no wonder that smiling from either spouse can create an incredibly happy atmosphere. So smile away often and come to understand this untapped power.

While these are just a few of the phrases that cause your wife's heart to melt, there are many, many more. You may want to experiment every day. Becoming close to each other and becoming one will generate a life of happiness and success.

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Recently, Brittney Helmrich from Business News Daily wrote an article titled "30 Ways to Define Leadership." She quoted a number of thought leaders and CEOs from around the country after asking 30 business owners and experts to define what leadership means to them.

Consequently, I too have been thinking about leadership. Most of my experience comes from being a leader in a variety of capacities and being around good and not-so-good leaders throughout my career. What I have discovered is there is a pattern of leadership, and good leaders share the following ten patterns.

Have and share a vision

Good leaders have a vision. They know what they want to do. But the amazing thing is they don't keep it to themselves. Rather, they share that vision far and wide. They gain vision from the different perspectives of every corner of their organization. Their vision encompasses everyone, and soon the leader's vision is the organization's because everyone helped create it. Warren Bennis once said: "Leadership is the capacity to translate vision into reality."

Share leadership

Hoarding leadership at just the top will eventually topple the organization when that leader goes away. Some leaders may think they are indispensable. An old farmer once said how indispensable people really are: "Most people will be missed," he said, "about as much as when you plunge your hand in a bucket of water and pull it out." Good leaders share and teach leadership skills to those in their organizations. They raise leaders and help emerging leaders become more engaged and more effective leaders.

Exhibit strong values

In today's ever-growing, vigorous workplace good, solid values are hard to come by. Dishonesty, disloyalty, disrespect and other "dises" run rampant in our society. A few years ago, Harry M. Jansen Kraemer Jr. wrote a Forbes article entitled "The Only True Leadership Is Values-Based Leadership." His point was essentially that good leaders exude strong values of honesty, integrity, persistence, positive attitudes, consistency, trust and many, many other good and positive values.

Help others progress

Exceptional leaders continue to discover the skill sets of their employees and help them grow and progress. If the skill set is just emerging, then the good leader will equip those employees with experiences that will enhance their skill sets, thus making the employees more valuable.

Stand up for and do the right things

Being a leader is difficult. Often, the decisions they make are hard ones. But we all know that making right choices can be challenging, especially with all of the noises that shout at us from all levels. Standing up and standing strong, while simultaneously making right choices, will separate good leaders from mediocre ones.

Think clearly

Trends of making money and gaining more power often cloud the real vision of what needs to be done and the decisions that need to be made. This causes a good leader to deviate from a proven pattern. Good leaders follow the pattern of having clarity of thought. They can continue to see the big picture despite the boulders and debris that periodically clutter the working mind and the pathway to a successful enterprise. Good leaders can shoosh away the clamor and clutter by keeping a clear head and clear mind and by maintaining sound principles.

Care about people

More times than not, some leaders are bent on making the organization great in order to gain a greater market share, create financial collateral for themselves and their shareholders and plow through the competition, all the while overlooking the greatest asset of any business: the people who work there. Good leaders care deeply about the people within the organization first and foremost. They want them to succeed because when the people succeed, so does the organization-all parts of the organization.

Inspire people to do extraordinary things

All organizations are blessed with people who are pulling their full weight. Good leaders follow the pattern of inspiring those people and others who may not be pulling their full weight to do things they wouldn't normally do. Think of coaches who have put together a group of mediocre players and created a championship team because they can inspire their team to work hard, think smarter and do things they wouldn't normally do. The Leadership Institute touts, "Leadership is the art of leading others to deliberately create a result that wouldn't have happened otherwise."

Lead from the front

Leaders are not backseat drivers but neither do they use whips to get the job done. A good leader is with his or her people all of the way. From many viewpoints, the leader is out front, waving the flag of we-can-do-it. The irony is this: They literally lead from the front while guiding from the side, the back, the middle, above, below and from other angles. They are everywhere.

Simplify the complicated

General Collin Powell once said, "Great leaders are almost always great simplifiers, who can cut through argument, debate, and doubt to offer a solution everybody can understand." That is one of the challenges of leaders. Complex ideas face all of us at one time or another. The key is how to break down the complex so that the rest of us can understand it.

Good leaders show these patterns of leadership and more. They are the ones who reach down and pick us up while moving rapidly toward the goal. They take time to show compassion and exhibit a willingness to give a sense of clarity that will trumpet us to the front of the line with them. When the people following are successful, leaders will be successful. So, good leaders will always include the people along the path of an organization's success because they know the patterns, live the patterns and, sometimes, create the patterns.

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If there is one thing you don't want to have happen in a marriage is to lose interest in the marriage and have it come spiraling to a crashing close. With so many variables clashing and clanking about in the world today, it might be easy to lose our way. Thankfully, many attitudes exist that definitely show you are still happy in your marriage.

Expressing gratitude -

An attitude of gratitude for everything he or she has done is incredible. Sometimes a mere thank you or a quick hug after one of you does something nice can reap great benefits. Often, we overlook or take for granted things that our spouses do for us. Think about what would happen if the clothes or the dishes didn't get washed? Or the house cleaned? Or the car maintained or washed? Trouble won't be as prevalent in a marriage if you express gratitude.

Rubbing each other's pains as we get older -

Perhaps, early in the marriage, lots of massages were part of the package. Get really good at it because the massaging actually turns into rubbing the sore spots even more as you grow older. And that's where you really connect.

Holding hands after 36 years of marriage -

Holding hands can be so sensuous and delightful! It definitely shows that you feel attached and want to touch your spouse. Plus, it shows others you are still connected and want to be, no matter where you are or what you are doing.

Remembering each other -

Each and every day needs to be a day of remembrance-a special kiss, a note to each other, a cute phone message, an invitation for the weekly date, a chocolate on the pillow, a nible on the ear, anything that shows your spouse you are still the one. Maintaining the remembering will be beneficial later on.

Spending time together -

In our society, it seems that each spouse has begun to do his or her thing, go out with his or her friends, and not spend much time together. Developing this particular attitude of spending time together throughout your marriage will reap eternal blessings. When the children are all grown up, when the job has dwindled into retirement, and the friends have either died off or gone their own way, the only ones left are you and your spouse. If you have spent enjoyable time together, then it won't be a hardship. It will be the best time you two have ever had together.

Watching our children grow up -

If children have graced your world, you should watch them grow up together. Often, it is the wife who spends the most time with the children. Both parents, especially fathers, need to spend as much time as they can in watching their children grow up and being a part of their lives. One day they are born, another day they are in first grade, the next day they are in high school, another passes and they are in college, and then poof! They are married and out of the house.

Sharing stories of the past but still being excited about our future -

It is fun to linger in the past and sharing those incredible stories. But still being excited about a future together is intoxicating. While a strategic planning formula of the past + the future = the present may seem a bit lame, it works. There has to be some of the past linked with the future to really have an intriguing and delightful present.

Take many, many photos together -

In today's society of selfies, it is wonderful that we can take pictures of us together. Couples that take pictures together are saying they enjoy being together. Every place is beautiful where you take a picture of just the two of you.

Having real and fresh conversations -

Real conversations mean talking about things that are happening every day. Fresh conversations are those that are new, not rehashed conversations from the past. Granted, sometimes we must review conversations about the past in order to settle things. Simultaneously, fresh conversations about what is happening in the world create a freshness in a marriage and encourages laughter and having fun together. In fact, you start having more to laugh about when things like hearing get weaker because some of the things you thought the other person said are hysterical!

Showing continued attraction -

This is a big one. Some of you may have not experienced this yet, but as you grow older, your body changes. Seriously! The facts are simple: Wrinkles somehow begin to appear. Places that used to be skinny and tight are no longer. Your hair thins and turns gray. Sometimes, you look in the mirror wonder "what has happened to me?" But compliments should never end. The nibbling on the ears and the quick wink need to continue. You should try to look as adorable as you always look. Continue the passion you have experienced.

We can develop positive attitudes about pretty much anything. Of course, developing attitudes that show you are happy in your marriage will eventually lead you to develop healthy attitudes about many, many areas.

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Everyone receives blessing in his or her life. Most of us recognize the blessings we receive and are thankful for them and wish for more. For some it is more difficult to recognize the blessings because they may fail to see them. But there are some blessings that God never wants you to forget.

We are His children that He loves

Perhaps, the number one blessing is knowing God is our Heavenly Father who loves each of us. Knowing we have a loving Father in Heaven should help us remember He is there for us through every trial we go through. Most of our earthly fathers are our heroes, and we love them very much. Heavenly Father is the same way, and we should never forget His love, truly an eternal blessing.

Flowers

The mere fact that there are hundreds and thousands of flowers for us to smell and enjoy - roses, peonies, bluebells, daisies, lilies and a zillion others. What a blessing it is to walk down the road, pass people's gardens, hike in the mountains in the spring and summer, and visit planted gardens. All of the colors and varieties show that God loves flowers, too, and wants us to enjoy them as He does.

Second chances and His son

When you think about all the second chances one receives, you breathe a sigh of relief and whisper, "Thank you!" Without the chance to try again, we would be truly distraught and anguished. These second and third chances only come as a result of the incredible blessing of His son's sacrifice, through which we may repent of our sins and become whole again. Often, when we make mistakes, we believe we can do nothing about it. In our lives, when we do not do what Heavenly Father wants us to do, we distance ourselves from Him. His son's love and sacrifice allows us to come back into His presence and feel of His and His son's warmth and spirit.

Agency

What a blessing to have agency in order for us to choose for ourselves what we want to do. Thankfully, He has given us guidance and commandments to help us along the way. Knowing the difference between right and wrong will always guide us to choose well.

Each breath we take

Often we take breathing for granted until we go somewhere where breathing is difficult. Many of us have risen early in the morning and hiked into the mountains. There the air is cleaner, more whole and more enjoyable. Each morning, walk outside and take a deep breath. Not only do you feel the wonder of life, but you also help the oxygen flow to your brain.

Modern-day conveniences

We cannot forget about the remarkable blessings of modern-day conveniences, such as washers and dryers, dishwashers, microwaves, iPhones, computers, cars and airplanes, and technology. These devices have made our lives easier and more pleasurable. And the amazing thing is this: We still are inventing new technologies that enhance our lives even more.

Families

The joy we receive from families is enormous. Being part of a family unit is one of the biggest blessings we can receive.

Your body

Your body is a miracle! Think about talking, listening to a child's laughter, smelling lilacs in the spring, touching the floor when you get out of bed each morning, jumping and skipping. Bodies are just incredible. Even as we grow older, we can continue to take care of them, and they will serve us well.

His phrase, "I am always with you."

Nothing is more comforting than this phrase, especially during times of challenges, heartache and hurt. Loneliness is a scary thing, and many people feel it. Once we understand the true meaning of "I am always with you," we will finally know that no matter what the situation, He will be there to comfort us, cry with us, laugh with us and sit by us - always!

We can love

Love is an incredible responsibility we all have to share, and Heavenly Father has given His love to us to do so. The irony is this: The more love we share, the more love we have in our hearts for others. And the more love we have in our hearts, the happier we become. Happy, loving people are exuberant.

There is a phrase in a church hymn that reads,

"Count your blessings; Name them one by one. Count your blessings; See what God hath done."

When we do count our blessings, we will definitely see that God has blessed us all greatly and does not want us to forget these blessings and any other blessings that may come to us.

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