Grandchildren are precious, but because of variable circumstances in life, living near by isn't always an option. However, with a bit of effort, creativity and help from a varied source of modern technology, there are more ways then ever to be close and emotionally connected.

You've Got Mail!

Make the mailbox a fun place to let the grandchildren know you're thinking about them through postcards, letters, pictures, stickers, books and toys. Besides their Birthday and Christmas, other holidays are a great time to send them something special - like a Valentine, an Easter basket or a spooky Halloween treat. For older grandchildren you can also keep in touch by email or facebook.

"Hello?"�

Call them frequently on the telephone, setting up a specific or regular time to talk when they aren't rushed or send them their own pre-paid calling card as added incentive to call you anytime. You can also talk to them by text or video conferencing on Skype.

Planes, Trains and Automobiles

Visit them in person whenever you can and be sure to make those visits count. Leave lots of time to spend doing age-appropriate activities they enjoy: play games, take walks, go to the zoo or the mall, bake cookies, watch their favorite tv show together, give them frequent hugs and laugh a lot.

Make Them a Keepsake

Make them a quilt or soft-fleece blanket they can snuggle in while thinking of you, or a create mini-scrapbook filled with family pictures, including some taken together, or send a new Christmas ornament every year.

Connect Through Books

One grandmother whose preschool age grandchildren lived far away purchased some age-appropriate books and recorded herself reading them, including a comment of when it was time to turn each page. These books created a special connection each time the children listened to the story in their grandmother's voice. When they did get to spend time together in person they hadn't forgotten her.

Keep it Positive

Leave the disciplining up to their parents, and the spoiling up to you! Make time to listen, love and encourage your grandchildren. Be someone they feel safe with and trust and your relationship with flourish!

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With passing time that sweet baby became a chubby toddler, a preschooler, an older child and then...sigh... a wayward teenager

Teens go through a tumult of physical, psychological, social, and emotional changes as they grow and develop to adulthood. During the process of discovering their own identity and sense of self, they may turn away from the principles and values that have been taught and followed in the home. That can be a tough time for parents. Here are some things I've learned:

Love First

Teens need to feel that no matter what mistakes or choices they make during this "growing up"� time, they are loved unconditionally.

Clear Boundaries

Make sure they know the rules of the home. Discuss openly and up front what is expected regarding behavior, family responsibilities and interaction, school attendance and homework, social activities and so forth.

Consequences

When they make mistakes, hold them accountable. Follow through with natural consequences and discipline. Stand by your word. If they learn you say one thing but do another they won't respect you or take you seriously. As a result, your teen will rapidly become out of control.

Pick Your Battles

Teens need to have responsibility over their lives-within reason. Decide what things are most important to you, as a parent, and what things you can be flexible. For example, you are willing to negotiate on the length of your teenage son's hair, but won't budge on his curfew. Decide some of the rules together. When your teen feels they have a say in what they are, they are much more likely to follow them without a fight.

Listen don't Lecture

Learn to be a good listener. Often, if teens have the chance to voice their frustrations and feelings without interruption or constant, critical advice, they will be able to resolve issues on their own. Respect their feelings without trying to change them.

Know Their Friends

Find out who they're spending time with and encourage them to bring their friends over. Be friendly and welcoming. Make your home a place they want to be with things available that hold their interest - games, age-appropriate movies, and lots of snacks!

Make Quality Time

Make sure your teen knows they are important to you. Especially after a conflict and emotions calm down, do something nice for them, compliment any progress they make and reassure them you still love them. Make regular one-on-one time doing something they enjoy.

Be aware

Know and recognize the warning signs your teen may be in trouble. Change in sleep or diet, falling grades or skipping school, lying, drastic mood swings or uncontrolled anger, secrecy, unexplained disappearances of money or valuable items around the home.

Seek Help

Get professional help, if needed, from a religious leader, a trusted counselor, a medical doctor, or a crisis intervention or treatment program if serious substance abuse or addiction problems arise. Don't wait before a problem escalates out of control.

Learn to Let Go

One of the hardest thing as a parent is to watch your son or daughter make mistakes that could be avoided or choices you know won't bring them long-term happiness. However, stepping back as a parent shows courage and ultimately, your deep love. They must learn, even if it's the hard way.

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