A wedding day is one of the most special days of a person's life, but Becky's fiancé, Kelly Turney, wanted to make this day even more unforgettable for his bride.

Two years before their wedding, Becky lost her 19-year-old son, Triston. On her wedding day, she wanted him to be part of it in any way he could.

Becky set aside an empty chair with a sign that said, "I'm in Heaven for your wedding so what shall I do? I'll come down to Earth to spend it with you. So save me a seat just one empty chair, you may not see me but I will be there."

The surprise of Becky's life was about to unfold, thanks to her fiancé. He had spent months planning for a young man from San Diego to travel to Alaska on their wedding day. When Becky saw him, she couldn't hold back her tears.

Jacob Kilby, 21, was born with hypoplastic left heart syndrome and was operated on three different times at less than two years old When he suffered from a nearly fatal heart attack in 2015, he was put on the long heart transplant waiting list, and eventually received Triston's heart.

Kilby allowed Becky to listen to his heart through a stethoscope so she could hear her son's heartbeat again. Although her son wasn't present, she could still literally feel his heart beating.

"Everyone has a legacy, but to see how Triston changed Jacob's life is just incredible. It makes you super proud," Becky said.

Becky's son was able to save four other lives through organ donation, and Jacob hopes that this heartwarming story will inspire others to become organ donors, and for organ recipients to connect with the donor's families.

Instead of giving details on how Triston passed away, the family wants the focus elsewhere. "We want the focus to be on organ donation and the relationship and the healing that goes on between recipient families and donor families. That's our focus," Kelly said.

The family hopes to inspire others through their beautiful story. Although Triston is no longer on this earth, his legacy lives on.

This article has been translated and adapted from the original, "Noiva de 40 anos reserva em seu casamento uma cadeira para seu filho falecido, mas agluém especial chega para ocupar a cadeira,"

published on familias.com.

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Growing distant from a spouse is heartbreaking. You still love them, but sometimes you don't even have the courage to look into your sweetheart's eyes. You go to say something, but realize it's not worth it.

Your spouse might think about sending a text to apologize, but was the argument really that serious? Why can't you seem to give your love more than just a peck goodbye? These small acts should be easy, especially in a marriage ... but since your spouse has been distant, they've become difficult.

If this sounds familiar, problems need to be resolved. If you are feeling distant from your spouse, these might be some of the reasons:

1. Not connecting with each other

Your spouse truly needs to be your best friend. You should make a goal to develop a sincere friendship with your sweetheart. Share your secrets, fears, desires, dreams, your future and all the vulnerable things that make up the person you are. Focus on a partnership with your spouse. There is nothing more important than the relationship the two of you share, so work to develop that connection.

If it feels easier, talk about the past - reconnecting over old and fond memories is a way many friends (and spouses) can bridge the gap that's crept into a relationship.

2. Not having fun

Couples who can enjoy each others' company can easily grow closer. Laughing may not always be the best remedy, but it does help the healing process.

Fun is also created and achieved through friendship. It's so important to keep dating your spouse, even after you've been married for a long time. This will allow the two of you to let go of your worries and just have a good time with each other.

To create more connection and less distance in your marriage, go on a date. Both partners should enjoy the date, so pick something you both love to do. The conversations should be light, cheerful, relaxed and fun. Avoid talking about your problems when you're on a date, because it's a time for fun and bonding. With more dates, you'll slowly feel more comfortable with each other.

3. A lack of understanding

As a family conflict mediator, I often realize in my line of work that if husbands and wives could put more effort into understanding each other, their lives would be so much easier.

How do you understand someone who feels distant? Improve your dialogue as a couple. When I choose to listen to my spouse's feelings and understand what they're saying, my marriage gets an incredible boost. Find time to talk - maybe it'll be just over a text at first, then move to a phone call during the day. Soon, it should be face-to-face. Focus on how to talk and listen to your spouse, then see how you can understand them.

Forming a bond of friendship with your spouse will strengthen your marital relationship. Strive to keep your marriage a priority, make your spouse the person you want to share beautiful moments with. If you do that, both of you will strive to be excited about sharing a life together.

This article was adapted and translated from the original "3 razões para o seu cônjuge estar distante" which was originally published on familia.com.br.

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A favorite conversation topic amongst married women is their husbands. They turn to their friends to get marriage tips and advice, or have fun exchanging stories about funny things their husbands have done.

This is not only a problem for women - many men do it as well. However, some secrets should be kept solely between you and your spouse. To avoid damaging your relationship with your sweetheart, it is important to know the difference between what is and is not appropriate to share with others.

But where is the line? Experts say that revealing specific things about your spouse can hurt your marriage and cause feelings of distrust and betrayal to come between you. Here are 10 topics a woman should always stay away from when talking to her friends about her husband.

1. Your sex life and intimate relationship

In one of her books, Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD, says this is the topic that bothers men the most. Commenting on the quality of your sex, what he likes or does not like, and intimate details of the process is not acceptable in any conversation amongst your friends. It should be something personal between you and your husband. Can you imagine if he told his friends something so intimate about you? How would you feel?

2. His fears

Society has created the idea that a "real man" is not afraid of anything. So if your husband shares that he has a fear of something silly like thunder, toads or spiders, don't go tell your friends about it. Dr. Audrey Sherman, developer of PsychSkills method, stated that "Women are not reluctant to share their fears, but [men] are."

3. His annoying habits

Dr. Lombardo explains that telling your friends that your husband does not change his socks every day, picks his nose or something else disgusting makes your friends look at him negatively and associate him with something nasty.

4. His poor salary or lack of success at work

If you have to get financial help from family members or the bank, or if your spouse never seems to get a promotion or pay raise at work, keep it to yourself. "Our culture teaches us that [a man] should be able to support his family and be in control all the time," stated Dr. Sue Johnson. Therefore, these comments can make your husband feel incompetent and decrease his confidence in his ability to provide and care for his family.

5. His inability to do simple home repairs

In this regard, Dr. Lombardo tells us that "Men equate their masculinity with the ability to fix things," once again due to a traditional role placed on them by society. If he messed up a little fix-it, such as a poorly attached door latch, ask his permission before sharing this "funny" story with your girlfriends.

6. A major flaw that you have not discussed together

If your husband has some serious flaw that is very troubling to you, talk directly to him about it. Don't go to your friends. Talk to him privately about these issues.

7. Comments made during arguments

When you have disagreements in your marriage, work them out together. You aren't likely to say very positive things about your husband when you are angry with him, so withhold that information from your friends, and do not involve them in your arguments. (If abuse is happening in your home, however, it is important that you do seek professional help.)

8. His political or religious beliefs

It is important to respect your husband's opinions and beliefs, even if they are different from yours. You would most likely want him to do the same for you.

9. His problems with other family members

Unlike women who like to solve their family issues as quickly as possible, Dr. Lombardo teaches that there is a different mechanism instilled in boys, which can cause them to be much slower to resolve a disagreement with a relative. Your comments regarding his conduct can undermine and prevent the resolution of conflict even more.

10. His past mistakes

Bringing up your husband's errors and events of the past is not a good subject to talk about with your friends. Besides feeling misunderstood, your husband may feel that you are being more faithful to your friends than to him. This can bring back painful memories, which can foster bad feelings between the two of you. Don't unearth an old argument that was solved long ago. Help him remember the good things he has done and forget his past mistakes.

Even if your husband is not around to listen to your little girlfriend chat, never say anything that could risk hurting or offending him. Trust is vital in a romantic relationship, and is the very foundation of a good marriage.

_This article is a translation and adaption of the original article, "10 coisas que você não deveria contar a ninguém sobre seu marido."

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